How to Stop Treating Grief Like a System with Dr. Elijah Frazier Part 1

In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker introduces a defining moment for The Grief School and the podcast. For the first time, she welcomes Dr. Elijah Frazier and shares the news that The Grief School is now powered by The Frazier Group.

This is not an announcement episode filled with buzzwords or credentials. It's a conversation about people, pain, and what real care actually looks like when someone is at their breaking point.

Sharon and Dr. Frazier talk openly about why grief cannot be handled by systems, scripts, or one-size-fits-all solutions. They explore the difference between easy work and necessary work, and why healing requires intentional relationships, honesty, and empowerment rather than dependency.

Dr. Frazier shares his philosophy of care, his commitment to meeting people where they are, and why building a multidisciplinary team matters when someone's life has been shaken by loss. Together, they explain how grief, mental health, physical health, faith, and life circumstances are deeply connected and why separating them often leaves people stuck.

This episode sets the foundation for what's coming next. It introduces a partnership built on trust, integrity, and the belief that grief deserves to be held by people, not processed through a system.

This is part one of a two-part conversation. Part two goes deeper into grief, choice, and what it means to move forward without abandoning your pain.

🧠 Key Points Discussed:

1. Why The Grief School is now powered by The Frazier Group and what that truly means

2. The difference between easy conversations and necessary conversations in healing

3. Why grief cannot be treated with cookie-cutter scripts or checklists

4. The importance of honoring each person's story instead of forcing outcomes

5. Why empowerment matters more than dependency in long-term healing

6. How unresolved grief often overlaps with weight, health, relationships, and identity

7. Why a collaborative, multidisciplinary approach serves grievers better

8. The role of intentionality in healing and decision-making

9. What it means to do heart-centered work instead of system-centered care

📓 Journal Questions for Reflection:

1. Where have I felt rushed, minimized, or misunderstood in my grief?

2. What kind of support have I been needing but not receiving?

3. How does it feel to consider care that honors my full story, not just my symptoms?

4. Where in my life do I need empowerment instead of being rescued?

5. What would it mean to feel truly seen in my grief?

🩶 Conclusion:

Grief does not need to be fixed.
It does not need to be rushed.
And it should never be handled by a system that forgets the human in front of it.

This episode marks the beginning of a deeper, more intentional way of supporting grievers. A way that honors pain, respects complexity, and believes healing happens through real connection.

Your story is not finished.
And you deserve care that treats it that way.

This is Grieve That Shit.
And this is where healing begins.