Ep71 Understanding Communication Breakdowns Starts With Naming Your Needs

2026-01-01

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I would love to hear from you. What did you think about this episode? Do you have any questions?You can communicate calmly, clearly, and thoughtfully — and still feel unheard, misunderstood, or stuck.In this episode, Dr. Dar Hawks explains why communication breaks down in relationships when core relationship needs feel threatened, and why talking more often makes things worse instead of better.You’ll learn:Why communication works for logistics but fails when something emotional is at stakeHow unmet needs — not poor commu...

I would love to hear from you. What did you think about this episode? Do you have any questions?

You can communicate calmly, clearly, and thoughtfully — and still feel unheard, misunderstood, or stuck.

In this episode, Dr. Dar Hawks explains why communication breaks down in relationships when core relationship needs feel threatened, and why talking more often makes things worse instead of better.

You’ll learn:

Why communication works for logistics but fails when something emotional is at stake
How unmet needs — not poor communication skills — drive conflict
The five core (sovereign) relationship needs and how each one disrupts communication differently
Why you keep repeating yourself even when you’re being clear
What actually helps communication soften and shift

This episode goes deeper than communication tips and offers a framework to finally understand what’s really happening underneath the words.

✨ Take the Relationship Needs Quiz
Discover which needs are most active for you and why communication keeps breaking down:
👉 https://drdarhawks.com/relationship-needs-quiz

✨ Explore the Better Relationships Communication Toolkit
Learn how to communicate from clarity, safety, and self-trust — not exhaustion:
👉 https://toolkit.drdarhawks.com

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