Michael Shahan on IFS, the Enneagram and Understanding Your Inner World through Compassion

In this episode of The In-Between, Evan sits down with Michael Shahan—a licensed therapist, Enneagram specialist, and IFS practitioner—who helps people shift from self-judgment to self-leadership through deeper self-awareness and compassion.

Michael’s journey began unexpectedly when a couple he counseled discovered the Enneagram, transforming their marriage—and sparking Michael’s passion for using this powerful tool in his practice.

But it wasn’t until he faced his own fears, mistyped his own Enneagram number, and embraced the discomfort of self-discovery that his work took on new meaning.

Together, we explore why lasting change begins with curiosity instead of shame, how our most uncomfortable emotions hold the keys to freedom, and what it really means to flourish by accepting ourselves exactly as we are.

This conversation is for anyone wrestling with anxiety, secretly judging their own struggles, or feeling ready for deeper self-understanding—but unsure where to begin.

Takeaways:

👉 Why awareness alone can spark powerful transformation

👉 How to recognize when fear is quietly driving your decisions

👉 Why the parts of yourself you resist the most need compassion, not criticism

👉 What Michael means when he says, “The problem is the problem, not you”

👉 How Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help you understand your inner conflicts

👉 Why acceptance isn’t resignation—it’s empowerment

👉 The hidden connection between spirituality and emotional health

👉 How the Enneagram can reveal your blind spots and your gifts

👉 Why real flourishing begins with accepting your fears rather than escaping them

This Episode Is for You If…

• You feel stuck repeating patterns you know aren’t serving you

• You’ve experienced anxiety, self-doubt, or shame around your inner struggles

• You’re secretly wondering if your coping strategies are doing more harm than good

• You’re tired of fighting yourself and ready for deeper peace and clarity

• You want a practical path to self-compassion—not just positive thinking
  

📝 Show Notes: https://itstheinbetween.com/episode28-michael-shahan/