Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken.
From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual s...
Whether you've been with your partner for ten months or ten years, knowing what you actually want in bed is harder than it sounds—especially if you never got the chance to explore. In this episode, Dr. Emily takes listener calls about the real challenges that keep couples stuck: shame around masturbation, mismatched experience levels, and the fear that fading passion means something's broken.
From a wife who's never had a partner ask what she wants to a husband hiding his solo sessions in the basement, Emily breaks down why sexual self-discovery isn't selfish—it's essential. She also tackles what to do when your partner wants to swing but you're not sure, and why taking penetration off the table might be the fastest way to bring the heat back.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why being a skilled lover has nothing to do with how many people you've slept with—and everything to do with curiosity and communication
• How to take the lead in bed without becoming a completely different person (even if you've always been submissive)
• The "hell yes or hell no" rule for navigating swinging, threesomes, and any sexual experience that makes you feel vulnerable
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Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction
1:33 - McKenzie: Husband complains about sex life to others
4:36 - Why partner count doesn't determine sexual skill
6:14 - How to discover what you actually want in bed
9:37 - Experience is not a numbers game
10:43 - Dan: Feeling guilty about masturbating while married
13:06 - Why masturbation shame hurts relationships
15:41 - Sarah: Giving her husband a prostate orgasm for his 50th
19:04 - Switching from submissive to dominant in bed
23:02 - Alex: Girlfriend wants to try soft swapping
25:17 - Hannah: Taking sex off the table to reconnect
30:03 - Building intimacy without rushing to penetration
