Episode 206: Milam Miller - How to Use the ”Ted Lasso” Method to Negotiate High-Stakes Deals

Rizz might be the word of the year, but what if the real power behind it is as old as leadership itself? We sit down with Mylan Miller, author of The Charisma Craft, to unpack why charisma isn’t a mysterious spark you’re born with—it’s a learnable practice that blends confidence with kindness to create two-way human connection. From the psychology of competence and warmth to the tiny physical cues that change how you’re perceived, we map charisma from slang to strategy.

Mylan takes us inside the high-octane world of sports and entertainment to show how deals are actually won: not by pressure in the boardroom, but by curiosity over dinners, market walks, and shared stories. You’ll hear how reading the room across cultures, asking better questions, and remembering what matters to people can transform a pitch into a partnership. We dig into barriers like self-doubt and fragile self-trust, then counter them with simple, repeatable tools: the ENT method for eye contact and listening, and the WTF reset for grounded posture. These habits don’t just look good on camera—they build trust you can renew.

We also wrestle with authenticity in the age of AI. What’s real connection versus performative oversharing? How do you stay human when templates and prompts are everywhere? Mylan’s take is clear: technology can suggest words, but only you can sense the unsaid, calibrate tone, and turn a moment into momentum. Along the way, we explore leadership archetypes, celebrate models like Serena Williams for warrior-level authenticity, and reframe charisma as service, not spotlight.

If you’re ready to upgrade your presence, close smarter deals, and lead in a way people actually feel, hit play. Then subscribe, share this with a friend who leads, and leave a quick review to tell us which tool you’ll practice first.

𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 Milam Miller👇
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➡️ 𝐖𝐞𝐛𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐞: https://beconfidentandkind.com/

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