445. You Don’t Have Multiple Priorities In Marriage, You Have One... And It Should Be Each Other

What if the key to transforming your marriage isn’t more time, but clearer priorities?

In this episode, Nick and Amy are joined by therapist Austin to discuss one foundational truth: your marriage should be your priority. Not work. Not kids. Not phones. The marriage.

Austin explains that many couples enter therapy focused on surface problems or looking for a “bad guy.” But when couples strengthen their emotional, physical, and spiritual bond, many issues naturally improve. When the relationship is healthy, everything else such as parenting, careers, stress functions better.

It’s Not About Time, It’s About Intention

Prioritizing your spouse doesn’t require hours each day. It’s often small, consistent actions:

• A thoughtful text
• Planning intimacy before a busy day
• Protecting date night
• Choosing your spouse over your phone

These simple efforts say, You matter to me.

When a spouse feels prioritized, connection can rebuild quickly.

The Distraction Problem

Most couples live in “urgent but not important” mode — constantly reacting to notifications, emails, and distractions while neglecting what matters most.

If your marriage is truly the priority, it should go on the calendar first — not last.

A weekly “couples council” can help you stay aligned: express appreciation, review schedules, and intentionally plan time together before filling your week with everything else.

A Covenant Mindset

Marriage isn’t just a commitment — it’s a covenant. When you drift, repair isn’t about blame. It’s about course-correcting and saying, You matter most. I’m all in.

A strong, intimate, playful marriage isn’t complicated.
 It’s intentional.

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