How to Regulate with No Margin (Baby #2, Toddler Tantrums, & Trusting a Good Father)

Out of margin? Whether you're navigating a new baby, a demanding job, a strained relationship, grief, or a big transition, this conversation gives you practical ways to stay grounded when life won't slow down. We share Romi's birth story and the grief that unexpectedly opened the door to peace, unpack why people "borrow" each other's nervous systems, and walk through simple, repeatable practices to regulate in real time—without perfection or spiritual jargon.

Who This Is For (and Why It Helps)

• Parents and caregivers feeling stretched thin and reactive—learn how to co-regulate and repair.

• Singles and married couples without kids facing career pressure, loneliness, or change—use micro-practices to steady your inner world.

• Leaders, pastors, and coaches who carry others' emotions—discover how presence resets a room better than control.

• Anyone in transition or grief—see why honest sorrow can become the doorway to peace rather than a detour.

You'll walk away with language for what's happening in your body, a kinder way to meet your triggers, and small steps that create real change.

What You'll Learn

• How grief can make space for breakthrough (Romi's story)

• The pain–fear–tension loop and how to break it

• "Borrowed nervous systems": why your presence matters more than perfect words

• A clarifying question that transforms reactivity: "Why does this bother me?"

• Zero-margin tools: two breaths + one sentence, name the wave, orient to good, rhythm over rules, repair over perfection

Chapters & Timestamps
00:00 When life feels unmanageable (why margin matters)
03:20 Grieving what's ending and how it made room (Romi's birth)
10:10 Pain–fear–tension: what bracing does to your body
16:45 Borrowed nervous systems: presence over control
23:00 The belief beneath the reaction: "Why does this bother me?"
31:15 Micro-practices for zero-margin moments (step-by-step)
38:00 Being parented by God so we can lead from peace

 

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