133. If I Know The Steps To Sobriety, Why Do I Keep Struggling To Take Them?

2025-09-30

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On this week’s episode of In The Circle, we’re joined by Karen, who asks us such a relevant question in the recovery space: I know what to do to get sober, but why can’t I seem to do it?Recovery requires a mystical collaboration; we take consistent steps, but the true unfolding comes from surrendering outcomes to a higher power. Like farmers planting seeds, our role is to prepare, plant, and tend, while trusting growth to something greater.Avoiding pain or shadow work by clinging to spiritual identities or ideas does us no benefit in the long ...

On this week’s episode of In The Circle, we’re joined by Karen, who asks us such a relevant question in the recovery space: I know what to do to get sober, but why can’t I seem to do it?

Recovery requires a mystical collaboration; we take consistent steps, but the true unfolding comes from surrendering outcomes to a higher power. Like farmers planting seeds, our role is to prepare, plant, and tend, while trusting growth to something greater.

Avoiding pain or shadow work by clinging to spiritual identities or ideas does us no benefit in the long run. Real transformation requires facing the harder truths of ego, fear, and past wounds with humility and honesty, rather than skipping ahead to the light.

Transformation doesn’t come from quick fixes, but from steady, consistent action and a willingness to show up in the present moment, again and again.

Tommy discusses

Information vs transformation
Growth in recovery is like farming
What is a spiritual bypass?
Daily practices matter
Real recovery happens only in the present moment

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