The Perfect Parent Trap: What If Your “Worst Moment” Is a Clue?

2026-03-03

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Parenting isn’t a performance, it’s a relationship, and the messiest moments might be your best clues. Kate talks with family therapist and educator Lisa Taylor about her new book The Perfect Parent Trap and why “losing it” doesn’t mean you’re failing. It may mean an old, tender part of you is getting “ignited.” They explore Lisa’s “heartprint” framework (the deep beliefs we carry, like “I’m not enough”), how kids “borrow our nervous system,” and why the real shift often starts with regulating ourselves instead of “fixing” our...

Parenting isn’t a performance, it’s a relationship, and the messiest moments might be your best clues.

Kate talks with family therapist and educator Lisa Taylor about her new book The Perfect Parent Trap and why “losing it” doesn’t mean you’re failing. It may mean an old, tender part of you is getting “ignited.”

They explore Lisa’s “heartprint” framework (the deep beliefs we carry, like “I’m not enough”), how kids “borrow our nervous system,” and why the real shift often starts with regulating ourselves instead of “fixing” our children.

Listen For

:00 Have you ever “lost it” and realized you weren’t parenting from today?
12:43 How do you tell if you’re reacting to your child—or the child within you?
24:59 What does a real repair sound like after you’ve messed up?
33:05 Why does one “difficult” child sometimes hold the whole family system together?
40:49 Can re-parenting your inner child change how you parent right now?

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