Marcus Buckingham (British pop trend researcher, New York Times bestselling author of Standout Strengths) has researched the paradox of female unhappiness - which sees women get more miserable the more freedoms and choices they have - for several decades now (and used to contribute to Cosmopolitan magazine back when I was editor).
Specifically – and inversely - Marcus has worked to determine the thing that the happiest women are doing right. The results are jolting. Far from trying to find balance in their lives, they explicitly seek imbalance. They embrace the chaos, and the competing responsibilities and choose to “tilt” toward the stuff that strengthens them, or that brings them joy and love.
In this chat, we establish how to work out what you love, how to tilt and why it’s imperative that we do so. As Marcus says, “Your brain on love is smarter”.
You can read more about Marcus’s work here and join him on Twitter.
Purchase Love & Work here.
I mention other, wise wild people that I have “hunted down” after writing about their wisdom in one of my books:
The Lady in Red
James Hollis
Sheena Iyengar - discusses the paradox of choice
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