How Joe & Tara Stopped Trying to Change Each Other

What does it actually take to build a marriage that lasts? In this special episode, Joe sits down with his wife Tara for an honest, unfiltered conversation about the 29 years of their relationship: how it started, what they got wrong, what they figured out, and the lessons only decades of shared life can teach.

Together, they explore:

• The single want that mattered most: someone who would grow with them
• Tara's three non-negotiables before saying yes
• The moment they learned they couldn't change each other
• Why the person questioning the relationship is often having a "me" issue, not a "them" issue
• What it actually means to "get in your body"
• How love gets wired with guilt, criticism, or abuse
• The dynamic where one partner is "the better one" and one is "the problem"
• The pivot from litigating who's right to honoring each other's realities
• Aggressive vs. passive-aggressive anger as mirror images of the same shame
• Marriage (and kids) as the fastest way to peel the onion of identity
• What they'd do differently: bringing more consciousness to vision and creating the practices together

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