Nobody really explains this part of relationships either.That a lot of the friction isn’t about love, or communication, or effort.It’s about order.And chaos.And which one of you is quietly losing your mind because the other one will not, under any circumstances, make a plan.Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.And in this episode of Different, Not Broken, I introduce you to the single most accurate relationship framework I’ve ever found.It comes from the greatest relatio...
Nobody really explains this part of relationships either.
That a lot of the friction isn’t about love, or communication, or effort.
It’s about order.
And chaos.
And which one of you is quietly losing your mind because the other one will not, under any circumstances, make a plan.
Hi, I’m Lauren Howard. You can call me L2. Like other people do.
And in this episode of Different, Not Broken, I introduce you to the single most accurate relationship framework I’ve ever found.
It comes from the greatest relationship philosopher of our time.
Jim Henson.
I’m talking Order Muppets and Chaos Muppets.
Who they are.
Why they keep finding each other.
And why once you see it, you genuinely can’t unsee it.
We get into partners, kids, siblings, colleagues, and the moment when an Order Muppet finally snaps and goes full feral Kermit.
We talk about why chaos isn’t a flaw.
Why order isn’t control.
And why most conflict is really just two nervous systems speaking completely different languages.
There’s also a listener question about masking.
What it costs.
Why it’s exhausting.
And how to start noticing who you actually are underneath all the coping.
It’s funny.
It’s unreasonably accurate.
And it will absolutely ruin the way you look at the people in your life, in the best possible way.
If you’ve ever thought “why am I the only one holding this together?”
Or “why does this person make everything harder?”
Congratulations. You’re probably a Muppet.
Let’s figure out which kind.
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Timestamped summary
00:00 Are You an Order Muppet or a Chaos Muppet?
02:18 Jim Henson’s accidental relationship genius
05:04 Why opposites don’t just attract, they survive
08:41 Families, kids, and chaos tolerance
11:22 When Order Muppets finally lose their shit
13:09 Listener question: masking and exhaustion
14:05 How to start unmasking without blowing up your life
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