Send a textIn this episode of Hair What I’m Saying, we unpack Black men, texturism, and identity through one deeply personal story.DK shares his journey from high-top fades to S-Curls, chasing a look that felt polished, acceptable, and confident. What started as influence from a cousin turned into years of chemical processing, wave caps, brushing routines, and the legendary “red box.” But when thinning began at 25, the conversation shifted. Was it genetics, chemicals, or something bigger?We explo...
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In this episode of Hair What I’m Saying, we unpack Black men, texturism, and identity through one deeply personal story.
DK shares his journey from high-top fades to S-Curls, chasing a look that felt polished, acceptable, and confident. What started as influence from a cousin turned into years of chemical processing, wave caps, brushing routines, and the legendary “red box.” But when thinning began at 25, the conversation shifted. Was it genetics, chemicals, or something bigger?
We explore how texturism shaped his understanding of “good hair,” how words like “nappy” quietly impacted confidence, and how hair became currency for attention and attraction. From 360 waves in the 90s to marketing that turned insecurity into profit, this episode examines how culture influences the grooming choices Black men make.
College at a predominantly white institution added another layer to his identity. Navigating Blackness, visibility, and presentation raised questions about assimilation and authenticity. Did certain hairstyles feel more acceptable? More professional? More attractive?
We also challenge common myths around hair loss, hats, wave caps, and illusion-based grooming trends, and ask the bigger question behind it all:
When it comes to Black men and chemical processing, was it the chemicals, or was it culture?
This conversation is about more than balding. It’s about identity, masculinity, self-perception, and unlearning what we were taught about “good hair.”
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