119: The Thing Asian-American Women Get Wrong about Gravitas

2025-07-30

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Have you ever gotten the feedback that you lack gravitas? Or that you don’t have the presence of a leader?In this episode, I dive into just what gravitas is — and the essential thing you’re getting WRONG about gravitas (and what you really need to understand about it to get your next promotion.) Gravitas is often misunderstood, especially among Asian American women, who think it's about emulating the people who have it.But here’s the thing you’re missing — real gravitas can only come from inside you. It’s part of...

Have you ever gotten the feedback that you lack gravitas? Or that you don’t have the presence of a leader?

In this episode, I dive into just what gravitas is — and the essential thing you’re getting WRONG about gravitas (and what you really need to understand about it to get your next promotion.)

Gravitas is often misunderstood, especially among Asian American women, who think it's about emulating the people who have it.

But here’s the thing you’re missing — real gravitas can only come from inside you. It’s part of your unique presence and power.

In this episode, I dive in deeper on how to access your inner gravitas, including simple techniques to step into your power and presence.

Gravitas CAN be simple! You don’t want to miss how easy to make it, so tune in!

The top learnings from this episode:

Understanding gravitas and its real meaning for leaders. [00:01:51]
How cultural conditioning impacts your leadership. [00:05:06]
Why gravitas comes from authentic self-power, not imitation. [00:05:48]
How to build presence (and stop thinking out loud.). [00:08:03]
Simple vocal techniques to project authority and confidence. [00:08:46]
Steps for moving from feedback to self-empowered leadership. [00:09:31]

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