Are you in love or attached to the fantasy?

What is the difference between loving someone and becoming obsessed with them? In this episode, I explore how love can slowly turn into fixation, fantasy, and emotional dependency, and why so many of us confuse chemistry with compatibility.

Recording from a hotel room, I reflect on my own experiences with emotional intensity, attachment patterns, love addiction, fantasy, and obsession, as well as the challenge of building a life that doesn’t revolve around one person.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why obsession is often about identity, not the other person
• The difference between chemistry and compatibility
• How fantasy creates emotional intensity
• Why intermittent reinforcement is so addictive
• The connection between obsession, attachment wounds, and love addiction
• How emotional intensity and expanding your life can change your perspective on relationships
• Why I believe a healthy relationship requires a life that is bigger than the relationship itself
• What it means to choose yourself without becoming emotionally isolated

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