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If you've ever lost your patience with your child and then felt terrible about it, or wondered why what works for every other family just doesn't seem to work for yours, this ADHD parenting compilation episode is for you.
Today's episode is all about parenting in neurodiverse families and the real day-to-day of parenting neurodivergent children...
Looking for further guidance and support on ADHD Women's Wellbeing? Check out my resource library here or search for any topic on the Podcast here.
If you've ever lost your patience with your child and then felt terrible about it, or wondered why what works for every other family just doesn't seem to work for yours, this ADHD parenting compilation episode is for you.
Today's episode is all about parenting in neurodiverse families and the real day-to-day of parenting neurodivergent children when you're often navigating your own ADHD at the same time.
We hear from four guests across four different conversations, each bringing something distinct. Jessie Hewitson on what PDA actually is and how low-demand parenting can change everything. Dr Casey Ehrlich on why meltdowns are a nervous system response, not a discipline problem, and what it looks and feels like to go through the paradigm shift every PDA parent has to make. Kristen Pressner on giving up the search for a scaled solution and learning to become a brain friend instead. And Dr Tamara Rosier on the window of tolerance, why ADHD people have a narrower one, and what we can do about it in the moment.
None of this is about perfection. It's about understanding, acceptance, compassion, and choosing options that feel more aligned with your family, without judgement.
In this episode, we cover:
- What pathological demand avoidance (PDA) is, how it shows up and why it's so often misunderstood
- Why low demand parenting is not about giving in, but about lowering anxiety and keeping connection
- How meltdowns are a threat response in the nervous system, not a sign of bad parenting or a bad child
- The paradigm shift: moving from trying to fix your child to understanding how their brain actually works
- Why interest, not importance, motivates the ADHD brain and what that means for family life
- Kristen Pressner's concept of being a brain friend, and how a judgment-free household helps everyone thrive
- What the window of tolerance is and why ADHD narrows it
- The difference between hyper and hypo arousal and simple tools to move between states
- Dr Tamara Rosier's pool metaphor for understanding big emotions in neurodiverse families
- Why co-regulation starts with you, and how managing your own nervous system first makes everything easier
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Welcome and introduction to this week's compilation
- 03:27 - Jessie Hewitson: what is PDA and how does it show up
- 05:12 - Why PDA is inconsistent and so hard to explain to schools and relatives
- 07:15 - Kate on recognising PDA traits in her own children
- 08:07 - Low demand parenting and why the hierarchy has to shift
- 11:27 - Dr Casey Ehrlich: moving out of fixing mode and into acceptance
- 13:47 - Why a meltdown is a threat response, not a lack of skills
- 16:52 - The new baseline: treating dysregulation like a panic attack, not a behaviour problem
- 18:30 - Casey's own journey to a paradigm shift through Buddhism and radical acceptance
- 22:10 - Kristen Pressner: why there is no scaled solution in a neurodiverse family
- 24:00 - Interest versus importance: how the ADHD brain actually gets motivated
- 28:00 - How Kristen's family members responded to their diagnoses
- 31:15 - The brain friend concept and creating a judgment free household
- 39:21 - Dr Tamara Rosier: what the window of tolerance is
- 41:10 - Hyper versus hypo arousal and how ADHD narrows the window
- 44:05 - How Kate's window shrinks across a busy day and what she does about it
- 45:24 - Practical tools for widening the window and staying regulated
- 49:05 - Co-regulation and why the pool metaphor helps families understand big emotions
Links and Resources:
- Find my popular ADHD Women's Wellbeing workshops and resources on my website here.
- Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
- Get my book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit (also available in ebook and audiobook) here
- Join the More Yourself membership community here
- Get Jessie Hewitson's book: ADHD: How to Raise a Happy Child with ADHD
- Connect with Jessie Hewitson on Instagram
- Visit Dr Casey Ehrlich's website: atpeaceparents.com
- Connect with Dr Casey Ehrlich on Instagram
- Learn more about Kristen Pressner and watch her TEDx talk: kristenpressner.com
- Visit Dr Tamara Rosier's website: tamararosier.com
- Connect with Dr Tamara Rosier on Instagram
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach, podcast host, author and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity.
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