The Case For Quitting

I have aspired to be like Lindsay Crouse — professionally and personally — since the first time I figured out who she was. Killing it as an editor and writer at the New York Times opinion section. Absolutely wrecking expectations about how fast women in their 30s can be (re: running). If you're a high-achiever millennial, she was living that that life we all dreamed of.

Then a bunch of things in her life changed (I won't spoil them entirely here, but yes they involve difficult pregnancies and difficult physical recoveries) and she quit a bunch of things — and then wrote a book about quitting. In this episode, we have a wide-ranging conversation about what keeps us from quitting (especially but not uniquely high-achieving eldest daughters), who has the privilege to quit, and the actual science around quitting (and why most people should quit far earlier than they think).

We recorded this conversation two weeks ago, and I'm still rolling it over in my head — I think it'll have a similar effect on you.

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Show Notes:

• Follow Lindsay on Instagram here
• Pre-order The Case for Quitting here!
• Find out more about Lindsay's work here
• I reference the piece Lindsay wrote about getting really freaking fast in her 30s
• Here's the short film The Queen of Basketball that Lindsay helped produce that WON AN OSCAR (it's streaming in full on YouTube, watch it!)
• Another one of my favorite Lindsay productions: "Nike Told Me to Dream Crazy, Until I Wanted a Baby"

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