The Identity Hangover Who Are You When You Stop People-Pleasing

There's a moment that doesn't get talked about enough.

It comes after you start saying no.
After you stop over-explaining.
After you stop contorting yourself to keep everyone comfortable.

At first, it feels powerful. Liberating. Like finally exhaling. Then it gets weird.

You feel untethered. Hollow. Disoriented.
You start wondering who you even are without being the reliable one, the fixer, the emotional glue.

This is the identity hangover.

In this episode, I unpack:

• Why people-pleasing is an identity, not just a habit.

• The strange emptiness that shows up when old patterns fall away.

• Why that discomfort means you are doing it right.

• How to navigate the messy middle without running back to overgiving.

If you are in that tender in-between phase, this episode is for you.

If this episode hits somewhere tender, you might feel very at home inside The Done Era, my community for recovering people-pleasers who are done abandoning themselves.