Stop Calling It Boundaries—It Might Be Unforgiveness // Jason Glaze

What if the freedom we’re longing for is waiting on the other side of forgiveness?

In this episode, we sit down with our friend and repeat guest, Jason Glaze, to unpack one of the most misunderstood and transformative realities of the Christian life: forgiveness. We talk about why so many of us feel stuck in our relationships with God and others—and how unforgiveness may be the quiet cloud blocking the sun.

We explore what forgiveness actually is (and what it’s not). It’s not a feeling. It’s not forgetting. It’s not pretending we’re no longer angry. It’s a decision—an act of the will—to cancel a debt. And when we do, something shifts. Not just emotionally, but spiritually.

Together, we dig into how our identity in Christ fuels our ability to forgive on a deeper level. When we know who we are—and whose we are—we begin to forgive not just the act, but the consequences, the lies we believed, and the ways we learned to cope. We talk about why a memory is often just a container for a belief, and how healing comes when we address both.

We also wrestle with the hard questions:

• Why does unforgiveness rob us of the joy of our own forgiveness?
• What does it mean to forgive ourselves?
• How do we handle boundaries and reconciliation?
• And why does forgiveness sometimes feel like spiritual surgery without anesthesia?

If we’ve ever said, “I’ve forgiven… but it still lingers,” this conversation is for us. We share practical steps for walking through forgiveness with someone we trust and why we were never meant to do this alone.

Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone “win.” It’s about freedom. Theirs—and ours.

This one goes deep. And it might just unlock something we didn’t even know was holding us back.

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