In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I’m diving into something we all face , the kind of loss that doesn’t just break your heart, but breaks your identity wide open. I talk about how loss doesn’t just take something from us… it takes a version of who we were. And in that space, we’re left wondering: Who am I now? What’s my purpose? What happens next?I explore how grief can create a full-blown identity crisis, especially in midlife, when the roles we’ve played start slipping from our fingers. I share what I’ve learned persona...
In this episode of Beyond The Norm, I’m diving into something we all face , the kind of loss that doesn’t just break your heart, but breaks your identity wide open. I talk about how loss doesn’t just take something from us… it takes a version of who we were. And in that space, we’re left wondering: Who am I now? What’s my purpose? What happens next?
I explore how grief can create a full-blown identity crisis, especially in midlife, when the roles we’ve played start slipping from our fingers.
I share what I’ve learned personally and professionally about navigating these endings, honouring them, and letting them reshape us rather than destroy us.
I also talk about how purpose often emerges in the rubble
not in spite of loss, but because of it. And I bring in one of my favourite tools, breathwork, as a way to regulate the nervous system, clear emotional debris, and reconnect to the parts of ourselves we thought were gone.
If you’ve felt lost, disconnected, foggy, or unsure who you are after a loss , whether it’s a relationship, a job, a dream, a home, or even an identity — this episode will help you understand what’s happening, why it’s happening, and how to move forward with intention and compassion.
Take AWAYS:
Loss isn’t a moment; it’s a continuum we learn to live with.
Grief often triggers a crisis of identity.
Purpose tends to reveal itself through loss, not before it.
Breathwork can anchor and heal when everything feels chaotic.
It’s essential to honour the endings in your life.
It’s okay to feel lost — it’s part of the rebirthing process.
Finding your tribe makes the journey lighter.
Your purpose evolves as you evolve.
You can rebuild yourself after loss — gently, slowly, truthfully.
Life’s hardest chapters often spark the deepest transformation.
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I mention Elizabeth Gilbert’s newest book about loss, All the Way to the River: Love, Loss, and Liberation.
Here’s a link to more about it:
https://www.hippocampusmagazine.com/2025/09/review-all-the-way-to-the-river-love-loss-and-liberation-by-elizabeth-gilbert/
Chapters:
00:00 — Navigating Loss and Change
02:24 — Understanding Identity in Grief
03:51 — The Fog of Grief
08:30 — Finding Purpose Through Loss
12:45 — The Journey of Self-Discovery
17:59 — Rebuilding Identity After Loss
24:21 — Breathwork as a Tool for Healing
38:34 — Finding Your Tribe and New Desires
Key Quotes:
“Who am I now?”
“Your purpose is evolving.”
“Finding your tribe is key.”
“Loss asks us to rebuild who we are.”
“Purpose emerges when everything false falls away.”
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