How to Support Your LGBTQ Child Without Saying the Wrong Thing with Heather Hester

2026-02-12

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How to Support Your LGBTQ Child Without Saying the Wrong Thing with Heather Hester Supporting your LGBTQ child can feel terrifying—not because you don’t love them, but because you do, and you’re afraid of messing it up. So many moms tell me the same thing: they want to be supportive, but they feel frozen. What if they say the wrong thing? What if they accidentally hurt their child? What if their child thinks they don’t truly accept them? If that’s you, this episode is here to help. In today’s conversation, I’m joined by Heather Hester

Supporting your LGBTQ child can feel terrifying—not because you don’t love them, but because you do, and you’re afraid of messing it up.

So many moms tell me the same thing: they want to be supportive, but they feel frozen. What if they say the wrong thing? What if they accidentally hurt their child? What if their child thinks they don’t truly accept them?

If that’s you, this episode is here to help.

In today’s conversation, I’m joined by Heather Hester, host of the podcast More Human, More Kind and author of Parenting with Pride. Heather helps parents move from fear into informed love—with clarity, compassion, and courage. Together, we talk about how to show up for your child even when you’re scared, without needing perfect words or performative allyship.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

The biggest fear that keeps supportive parents silent and why worrying about “saying the wrong thing” doesn’t mean you’re failing your child.
The difference between being a supportive ally and a performative one, and how to show up in ways that actually feel authentic to you.
Three mindset shifts that help you support your LGBTQ child with confidence:
- Embracing being messy and imperfect
- Understanding that it’s not your child’s job to teach you—it’s your responsibility to learn
- Believing your child when they tell you who they are
What to say when you don’t know what to say, including simple language you can return to when fear takes over.
How fear shows up in your body and why recognizing your stress response helps you choose connection instead of panic.