What Really Matters: A Conversation on Values, Self-Worth, and Meaning

After a year away from the pod, psychologists Dr. Holly and Dr. Alison sit down to talk about what’s been on their minds: values, worthiness, and what actually makes a life feel meaningful. With no script and no plan, this conversation moves the way real life does, honest, a little messy, and surprisingly deep.

They unpack why it’s so hard to know what you truly value when you’ve been in survival mode, how your body often knows the truth before your mind does, and why so many of us mistake obligations for values. They also discuss raising daughters who feel inherently worthy, navigating identity shifts, and learning to choose a life that feels like their own, without waiting to earn it.

This episode is part catch-up, part love letter to their kids, and part reminder that you’re already enough to start living the life you want.

Chapters

02:00 Understanding and Defining Values

12:40 How Experience and the Body Clarify What Matters

20:55 Values, Growth, and Life Transitions

27:00 Teaching Worth and Values to Our Daughters

Resources

Lundgren, T., Luoma, J., & Hayes, S. C. (2012). The Bull’s-Eye Values Survey. In W. O’Donohue & J. Fisher (Eds.), Cognitive Behavior Therapy (pp. 451–457). Wiley.

https://www.actmindfully.com.au/free-stuff/

Dr. Alison Batchelder

https://www.alisonbatchelderphd.com/

Dr Holly Batchelder

https://www.youtube.com/@dr.hollybatchelder

https://www.hollyphd.com/

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