Inside BFF: The Story Behind the Biggest Bi+ Play Party in the World (Part 3)

2026-07-06

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Welcome to the final installment of my three-part series on BFF, the biggest, best, biannual, bisexual play party in Palm Springs.Before we dive in, I share an important disclaimer: BFF isn't for everyone. While I've found it to be one of the most accepting, freeing, and healing communities I've ever experienced, it's also an intense, highly sexual environment. I talk about who it might be a great fit for, who it might not, and why I think it's important to know that going in.Then you'll hear two final interviews recorded at the event,...

Welcome to the final installment of my three-part series on BFF, the biggest, best, biannual, bisexual play party in Palm Springs.

Before we dive in, I share an important disclaimer: BFF isn't for everyone. While I've found it to be one of the most accepting, freeing, and healing communities I've ever experienced, it's also an intense, highly sexual environment. I talk about who it might be a great fit for, who it might not, and why I think it's important to know that going in.

Then you'll hear two final interviews recorded at the event, followed by an extended conversation with Brad and Tracy, the couple who have organized BFF for nearly a decade. We talk about how the event began, how it's evolved over the past 20 years, and why the sense of community has always mattered even more than the sex.

• Steve — Back for his second appearance on the podcast, Steve reflects on another BFF weekend, why saying "no" can strengthen connection, and how kink and impact play have become an important part of his journey.

• Drew — Drew shares his path through bisexuality, polyamory, and building relationships rooted in communication, honesty, and community. We also talk about coming out, finding your people, and why authentic connection matters more than simply having sex.

• Brad & Tracy — The longtime organizers of BFF share how they stumbled into the event 20 years ago, eventually took it over, and have worked to preserve its uniquely welcoming spirit. We also explore bisexual visibility, the evolution of the swinging community, and why spaces where people can fully be themselves are more important than ever.

(There's no video for this series, but the audio is definitely explicit.)

If you'd like to attend BFF, you can reach out directly to Brad at his profile "CUTEONES" on Kasidie, SDC or Lifetylelounge, or at "CUTEONES1" on SLS or Fetlife.

Learn more about HOE Weekend: https://hoeweekend.com/

75-minute initial deep-dive coaching session with Rob: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/first-coaching-session-75-mins

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