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Adley Gartenstein is the former president and co-owner of Film Movement, a distributor of independent, award-winning films from around the world. Over the last two decades, Adley has been a counselor, trainer, and workshop leader in the co-counseling community. My friendship with Adley goes back to 25 years ago when we met at the Esalen Institute. Since then, we’ve formed a friendship so profound that he has become the godfather of my son, Zander.
In this episode, Adley and I discuss his journey with healing as he took care of his dying mother. We explore how he had assumed the role of caretaker for his mother since he was a child and describe how that impacted his sense of self-worth. We illustrate how Adley committed to becoming a great son, regardless of his mother’s shortcomings as a parent. We also discuss my experience with my father’s death and underscore the honor that comes with being present in a person’s final moments on Earth.
“Being around a dying person is, in a way, a transition into adulthood; to play that role of caretaker, to make it about somebody else, and to care about that person.” - Adley Gartenstein
This week on Relationships! Let’s Talk About It:
Assuming the role of caretaker for his mother from childhood How feeling responsibility for his mother’s well being affected Adley’s self-compass Claiming Adley’s right to be a great son, regardless of childhood experiences Understanding how trauma gets passed down through generations The beginnings of Adley’s journey into healing My experience with the death of my father Deciding not to be the victim of one’s circumstances and breaking the cycle of darkness and trauma The power of spending time with a dying person and the lessons it can teach us Feeling liberation from trauma and fulfillment of duty
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