Why Couples Fight About Money (It’s Not What You Think) | 99 Debt Rebel Show

Money fights aren’t really about money. They’re about fear, values, stress, and feeling unseen—and money just happens to be the loudest messenger.

In this episode of The Debt Rebel Podcast, I break down the three real reasons couples fight about money, even in strong, healthy relationships.

If money conversations in your household feel tense, awkward, or something you avoid altogether, this episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.

You’ll learn:

• The 3 root causes of money arguments (and why they escalate so fast)

• How different money stories and upbringings create conflict

• Why not having a shared financial plan turns spending into personal attacks

• How stress and shame fuel defensiveness and shutdown

• Common money fight patterns like saver vs. spender, secrecy, and scorekeeping

• Why avoiding money talks creates pressure—not peace

Whether you’re married, single, or in a relationship, this episode will help you see money conflict as information, not failure—and show you how to start healthier, calmer conversations about finances.

Plus, I’m sharing my Date Night Money Questions (Use promo code POD) in the show notes to help you start talking about money without spreadsheets, guilt, or blowups in the cereal aisle.

🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward less tension, more clarity, and a financial plan that brings you together instead of pulling you apart.