One of the biggest things making a joyful sex life hard to cultivate in patriarchy is our collective acceptance of patriarchal beauty standards. These bullshit standards have convinced almost everyone that they're not sexy. IT'S A LIE, PINECONES, IT'S A DIRTY LIIIIIIIE. All sorts of bodies are sexy, all sorts of people are sexy, and there really is someone for everyone - but only if we are able to deprogram patriarchy's fuckery from our minds and see ourselves for who and what we really are. Fat rolls aren't gross and cellulite isn't...
One of the biggest things making a joyful sex life hard to cultivate in patriarchy is our collective acceptance of patriarchal beauty standards. These bullshit standards have convinced almost everyone that they're not sexy. IT'S A LIE, PINECONES, IT'S A DIRTY LIIIIIIIE. All sorts of bodies are sexy, all sorts of people are sexy, and there really is someone for everyone - but only if we are able to deprogram patriarchy's fuckery from our minds and see ourselves for who and what we really are. Fat rolls aren't gross and cellulite isn't disgusting. Wrinkles are not something you have to hide to be beautiful. These ideas are just the lies of patriarchal capitalism trying to make you think you need to spend money and starve yourself to be lovable.
Reality check: You are lovable RIGHT EFFING NOW. Listen to me read my Substack essay, You Can't Hate Yourself Thin, in this week's audio-only solo episode.
In this episode:
- Why I went audio-only this week - I'm on a semi-real vacation visiting my mom for her 79th birthday!
- The lie patriarchy teaches about which bodies are allowed to be sexy
- Hitting my lifelong goal weight in 2019, and the fucked-up sense of "benevolent superiority" that came with it
- The self-love weight-loss advice I used to smugly hand out like gospel *cringe*
- How gaining the weight back spiraled into daily compulsive eating and shame
- My New York trip, the naked mirror incident, and the moment my internal sex machine screeched to a halt
- Growing up in a family that taught me to fear food and fat
- The baloney incident — my earliest memory of learning fat was bad
- The Atkins diet, the watermelon breakdown, and finally learning what hunger actually feels like
- The relationship epiphany in my mid-twenties that unlocked real, fast, joyful weight loss
- Crying into my ex's chest and realizing my "self-love" had a body-shaped asterisk on it
- What I'm doing now to reprogram myself
- Why the obsession with one "correct" body is patriarchy's rulebook, not the truth — and how we get free of it
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Send this one to the friend who's white-knuckling a diet right now, convinced that this time it'll finally fix how she feels about herself...and to the friend who compliments everyone else's body but never her own.
xoxo,
Samia
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