Looking for further guidance and support on ADHD Women's Wellbeing? Check out my resource library here or search for any topic you need on the Podcast here.Whether you've been with your partner for years or you're navigating dating after a late diagnosis, ADHD changes how we love, connect and show up in relationships, and this episode is entirely about that.Welcome to this week's summer compilation episode. Rather than a single conversation, I've pulled together some of the most resonant clips from...
Looking for further guidance and support on ADHD Women's Wellbeing? Check out my resource library here or search for any topic you need on the Podcast here.
Whether you've been with your partner for years or you're navigating dating after a late diagnosis, ADHD changes how we love, connect and show up in relationships, and this episode is entirely about that.
Welcome to this week's summer compilation episode. Rather than a single conversation, I've pulled together some of the most resonant clips from three different episodes on ADHD, love, intimacy and relationships, because I wanted to bring all of this into one place for you.
We begin with Lisa Rabinowitz, couples counsellor, certified Gottman and PACT therapist and author of Why Won't You Stop Interrupting Me? Lisa talks about how blame rarely helps either partner, why neurodivergence is often present on both sides of a relationship, and how working as a team rather than against each other can genuinely turn things around.
Then we hear from Sara-Louise Ackrill and Bontle Senne, AuDHD therapists, writers, and advocates and co-authors of The ND Lovers Club. They talk about psychological safety, masking in relationships, self-disclosure, and why understanding yourself is always the foundation before you can truly connect with someone else.
And we close with Dr Angela Wright, a trauma-trained clinical sexologist, sex medicine practitioner and menopause clinician, who talks honestly about how hormones, the nervous system and ADHD all intersect when it comes to desire, intimacy and what changes in midlife.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why neurodivergence is often present in both partners, even when only one has a diagnosis
- How to move from blame to teamwork in a neurodiverse relationship
- Lisa's concept of the "talk nook" and why having a dedicated space for connection matters
- Why psychological safety is the foundation of intimacy for neurodivergent people
- How masking and people pleasing quietly erode intimacy over time
- What self-disclosure in relationships and dating really looks like for ND women
- Why so many neurodivergent women are reconsidering traditional relationship structures
- How hormones and perimenopause affect desire, arousal and connection
- Why the ADHD brain's need for novelty and dopamine can complicate long term relationships
- How the nervous system underpins sexual arousal, and why feeling safe comes first
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Welcome and introduction to this week's compilation episode
- 03:30 - Lisa Rabinowitz: why both partners are often neurodivergent
- 05:47 - Moving from blame to understanding in a neurodiverse relationship
- 08:00 - How couples come back from the brink with awareness and teamwork
- 10:15 - The three legged race: working toward the finish line together
- 14:48 - Focusing on strengths and creating the talk nook
- 16:29 - Sara-Louise Ackrill and Bontle Senne: psychological safety in relationships
- 20:53 - Why masking is survival, not a quirky personality trait
- 23:27 - Self-disclosure: what to share, when and why
- 28:27 - How perimenopause and diagnosis collide in midlife relationships
- 33:04 - Celebrating the traits neurodivergent women bring to relationships
- 34:33 - Dr Angela Wright: dopamine, novelty and desire in long term relationships
- 37:00 - How hormones affect arousal and what changes in perimenopause
- 41:22 - The nervous system, safety and why emergency mode kills desire
Links and Resources:
- Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website here.
- Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod
- Get my book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit (also available in ebook and audiobook) here
- Join the More Yourself membership community here
- Visit Lisa's website: counselorforcouples.com
- Connect with Lisa on Instagram: @rabinowitzcounseling
- Get Lisa's book: Why Won't You Stop Interrupting Me? Simple Solutions for ADHD Couples
- Visit Sara-Louise and Bontle's website: builttodiverge.com
- Get their book: The ND Lovers Club: How Neurodivergent Women Lust, Like and Love
- Visit Dr Angela Wright's website: spicedpearhealth.co.uk
Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach, author and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed women with ADHD find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity.
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