Pep Talk | Why You’ll Never Please Everyone at Christmas (And Why You Should Stop Trying)

2025-12-15

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If your December feels like one long attempt to keep everyone happy, here’s the truth: you never will — and it’s costing you more than you realise. So many mothers are exhausted before Christmas has even begun—pulled in every direction, saying yes to everything, and trying desperately to keep everyone happy. If that’s you, you’re absolutely not alone… and this pep talk is for you. In the third of our December Pep talk series, Zoe unpacks the pressure to please everyone at Christmas, why so many of us fall into this pattern, and how ...

If your December feels like one long attempt to keep everyone happy, here’s the truth: you never will — and it’s costing you more than you realise.

So many mothers are exhausted before Christmas has even begun—pulled in every direction, saying yes to everything, and trying desperately to keep everyone happy. If that’s you, you’re absolutely not alone… and this pep talk is for you.

In the third of our December Pep talk series, Zoe unpacks the pressure to please everyone at Christmas, why so many of us fall into this pattern, and how to break free so you can actually enjoy the magic you’re creating for everyone else

In this pep talk, you’ll hear:

Why it’s literally impossible to please everyone (and why we keep trying anyway)
How being raised as “good girls” trained us to put ourselves lastThe real cost of people-pleasing — burnout, resentment, disconnection
Three powerful questions to help you reclaim your energyOne simple challenge to start shifting the pattern today

You can’t please everyone—and you don’t need to.

This Christmas, start by asking yourself: What do I need? What do I really want? What am I doing only because I think I should?

Then choose one small change that brings you closer to a calmer, more connected holiday season. You deserve it.

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