Bonnie Gray joins Amber to discuss growing up as a Chinese American, the invisible wounds she experienced, and how she learned to care for her soul. Her journey is documented in her newest book, Sweet Like Jasmine.
Questions discussed surrounding Bonnie’s invisible wounds and soul care:(4:37) You are Chinese American and grew up in San Francisco’s Chinatown, much of which you write about in Sweet Like Jasmine. Take us back and share a bit of what childhood was like for you.
(7:37) Something you share in the book is how you lived two completely different lives as a child. At home, you were fully Chinese and very much secluded from the outside world. At school, you were fully immersed in American culture. How did that impact your identity in your young years?
(30:49) At what point did Jesus enter your story?
(43:10) What encouragement can you offer to women who feel terribly alone in their struggles?
“I was born to a mail order bride from Hong Kong.”
“My dad left when I was seven.”
“It get got harder to talk about what was happening at home. You think it might be easier once I put myself through college, [because] it seemed like the typical overcoming achieving immigrant story, but it actually got harder…”
“I just felt like half of me was Chinese and half of me was American…There was no one place where I could be whole Bonnie.”
“I need to be more honest with myself than I’m uncomfortable with and I need to face the reality of the mother that I do have, rather than the mother that I long to bring into being.”
“I’m going to let go of hoping that she becomes or gives me the words that I really need to be loved or feel cherished. That’s really forgiveness. It’s saying, I’m letting this person go from the debt that was created in my heart, that loneliness, or those wounds, and I’m going to move on with my life. And look for those affirmation in other relationships that God provides through our friends, our spiritual family…”
“Forgiveness takes one but reconciliation takes two. For those of us who have people who have hurt us, we need to remind ourselves that God wants us to have healthy boundaries.”
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