Are you responsible for your partner’s happiness? Ever since we were young, it seems like we’ve been groomed to believe that our happiness is dependent on some external thing, person or relationship. This becomes even more apparent when we enter serious relationships or get married. Many of us feel the obligation or sense of duty to please and help our spouse find happiness.
In this episode, we take a deeper look at how attaching your personal happiness to another person can actually create a toxic relationship, and how it’s more important to take ownership of your happiness by looking within. Sometimes, we avoid facing our deeper issues and try to put a band-aid on them by jumping into new relationships or not acknowledging that we need to work on ourselves first.
0:00 Intro
1:13 Welcome banter
3:57 Start of topic
6:00 Why we feel obligated to make our partner happy
10:17 Work on yourself first
12:00 Becoming co-dependent on your spouse
15:49 Giving up control of your happiness
17:54 Avoiding the real issues
19:19 You can’t make someone else happy
23:30 Be empathetic and supportive
27:43 Its ok to not be ok
29:05 Takeaways & lessons learned
Things We Wish We Knew Before Marriage - Episode 64
Relationship With In Laws - Episode 63
Taking A Timeout - Episode 62
Pets and Relationships - Episode 61
Unlucky In Love - Episode 60
Relationships Change Over Time - Episode 59
Should You Get Married - Episode 58
Keeping Score In A Relationship - Episode 57
Interracial Dating - Episode 55
Finding The One - Episode 54
Friend Zone - Episode 53
Special Announcement & Giveaways - Episode 52.5
Why Are Women Attracted To Bad Boys - Episode 52
Living A Double Life - Episode 51
Is Chivalry Dead - Episode 50
Gender Roles In Society - Episode 49
Living With In Laws - Episode 48
Social Etiquette and Dating - Episode 47
Friends With Your Ex - Episode 46
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