Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Finding Freedom: Healing After Incarceration

Overcoming Life's Inner PrisonsIn this compelling episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews Matt Melvin, author of 'Bullied Behind Bars.' Matt shares his harrowing experiences of incarceration, bullying, and isolation, focusing on the mental prison of blame and anger that lingered long after his physical release. The conversation delves into the challenges many men face, such as shame, fear, and past trauma, and discusses the importance of emotional survival, men's groups, and what it truly means to feel free inside. Matt talks about his journey to self-love and forgiveness and his plans to create a supportive community for men. This episode provides a powerful reminder that freedom is more about inner connection and honesty rather than external conditions.00:00 Introduction to Forgiveness and Accountability00:13 Welcome to Real Men Feel00:34 Meet Matt Melvin: Author and Survivor02:01 Matt's Journey Through Incarceration05:31 Life After Prison: Challenges and Growth13:11 The Importance of Men's Work and Vulnerability19:23 Matt's Vision for the Future27:45 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationConnect with MattMatt Melvin — https://www.bulliedbehindbars.com/Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/matthew.melvin.5621X — https://x.com/barsbulliedResourcesBullied Behind Bars: A Gay Christian Trump Supporter Goes to Prison by Matt Melvin — https://amzn.to/4r2mSi8Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 388

Vulnerability, Alpha Myths, and Redefining Confidence

Embracing Vulnerability and AuthenticityIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant is joined by Tyler Foley, a keynote speaker and author of 'The Power to Speak Naked.' They delve into topics such as masculinity, leadership, vulnerability, and the complexities of jealousy and control for men. Tyler shares how his communication skills and diverse influences shape his masculinity and confidence. The conversation also explores relationship dynamics, including how to be supportive of a successful partner and how traditional notions of 'being alpha' are outdated. They discuss how true leadership involves listening, authenticity, and the power of stripping away the facade to reveal the raw, honest truth.00:00 Introduction and Opening Thoughts00:28 Welcome and Guest Introduction00:43 Exploring Masculinity and Leadership01:53 Tyler's Personal Journey and Influences09:12 The Power of Vulnerability13:29 The Concept of Speaking Naked15:46 Authenticity and Self-Awareness16:40 Supporting a Partner's Success21:24 Challenging the Alpha Male Stereotype27:13 Effective Leadership and Communication29:45 Final Thoughts and FarewellConnect with TylerTyler Foley — https://seantylerfoley.comFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/SeanTylerFoleyYYCLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/seantylerfoleyInstagram — https://www.instagram.com/seantylerfoley/ResourcesThe Power to Speak Naked: How to Speak with Confidence, Communicate Effectively, and Win Your Audience by Tyler Foley — https://amzn.to/3LmZ1eaConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 387

Restoring Confidence: Tackling ED and Performance Anxiety

Overcoming Sexual Performance AnxietyIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, and the importance of seeking help. Shay also explores the harmful cycle of quick fixes and the cultural differences in perceptions of masculinity and sexual performance. The episode emphasizes that these challenges are normal and that men aren't alone in their struggles.00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety04:24 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact07:17 Distinguishing Between Medical and Mindset Issues10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication22:10 Working with Men on Performance Issues23:19 Unique Challenges for Gay and Bi Men25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations34:10 Impact of Porn on Sexual Performance34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran36:14 Beyond Sexual Performance: Living Authentically38:28 Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with ShayShay Doran — https://shay-doran.comYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doranConnect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 386

Fueling Growth with Gratitude and Grief: Finding Purpose in the Shadow of Loss

Navigating Grief with Gratitude: A Conversation with Steve GamlinIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Steve Gamlin, known as the Motivational Firewood Guy. Steve shares his journey of grief and gratitude after losing his wife, Tina, in December 2024. The conversation delves deep into the process of living and creating with a broken heart, the power of visualization, and the impact of everyday kindness. Steve also discusses the importance of authentic expression and being honest about where you are in life. This heartfelt discussion is both uplifting and profoundly human, providing insights into how to find strength and purpose amid profound loss.00:00 Introduction and Personal Tragedy00:41 Meet Steve Gamlin: The Motivational Firewood Guy01:46 The Origin of Motivational Firewood03:50 Understanding Visualization and Vision Boards08:15 The Power of Everyday Kindness14:02 Navigating Grief and Sharing the Journey19:09 Personal Journey Through Grief20:49 Rebuilding and Moving Forward21:26 The Importance of Lived Experience23:26 Honoring Tina Through Vision Boards27:03 Daily Habits and Positivity33:29 Future Relationships and Self-Discovery35:32 Final Thoughts and ConnectionConnect with SteveSteve Gamlin — http://SteveGamlinSpeaker.comFacebook — https://www.facebook.com/SteveGamlinLinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevegamlin/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 385

No Competition, Just Growth: The Lez Bro's Take on Men's Work

Breaking Down Barriers with the LezBroIn this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Aastha Lal, a lesbian coach who is transforming men's relationships by providing a safe, non-competitive, and non-judgmental space for growth. Aastha shares her journey in creating the LezBro, a coaching practice where men can explore vulnerability, emotional honesty, and mindfulness. They discuss common challenges men face, such as reactivity and the need for connection, and highlight practical solutions through mindfulness and meditation. Aastha's unique approach bridges the divide in how men approach emotional openness and mental well-being, creating a ripple effect that benefits their relationships and communities. Join Andy and Aastha as they dive deep into the importance of emotional safety and the unexpected benefits of having a lesbian coach for straight men.00:00 Introduction: The Starvation for Connection00:29 Meet the Guest: Aastha Lahl, The LezBro Coach01:17 The Birth of LezBro: A Safe Space for Men03:00 Common Reactions and Client Experiences04:46 The Importance of Vulnerability and Mindfulness09:43 Challenges Men Face: Emotions and Reactivity12:38 Mindfulness in Practice: Real-Life Applications17:12 Connection in Relationships: Single vs. Married Men19:18 Outdated Masculinity and Emotional Expression27:35 Practical Steps for Men: Starting the Journey31:29 Conclusion: Final Thoughts and ResourcesConnect with AasthaTheLezBro — https://www.thelezbro.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/the.lezbro/Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel#RealMenFeel ep 384