Shailey & Katie's Lemonade Stand: Design Moms Finding the Happy Balance as Creative Entrepreneurs

Your Habit Personality, Motivation & Why Knowing Yourself Changes Everything

One-Size-Does NOT-Fit-All! Ever wonder why some people thrive with strict rules… while others immediately want to do the opposite the second a rule exists? In this episode, Katie and Shailey dig into why motivation isn’t one-size-fits-all—and why so many wellness plans fail simply because they ignore personality.Register for Katie's habit workshop: Habits That Stick at ohkatieday.com/workshopWe explore three powerful frameworks that explain how and why people take action:-The Four Tendencies-Abstainers vs. Moderators (do you need clear lines or flexible lanes?)-The Enneagram as a lens for understanding values, motivations, and internal drivers This conversation is all about permission—permission to stop forcing yourself into systems that don’t fit, to design habits that align with how your brain actually works, and to realize that needing fun, freedom, or structure isn’t a flaw… it’s data.If you’ve ever thought, “Why is this so easy for other people but so hard for me?”—this episode is for you. What You’ll LearnWhy Upholders meet expectations easily—and why Rebels instinctively push backHow Obligers can reduce resentment by understanding the why behind a taskWhy Abstainers love clear, black-and-white rules (and Moderators… don’t)How the Enneagram reveals deeper motivations—not just surface behaviorWhy customization is essential for sustainable habits and wellnessHow autonomy and choice increase follow-through (especially for Rebels)How pre-deciding rules can dramatically reduce decision fatigueWhy “fun” isn’t frivolous—it’s often a requirement for consistencyHow honoring personality differences leads to better adherence and less shame shaileymurphy.comohkatieday.com

Creativity, The Artist’s Way (even for non-artists!), Habits, and Katie’s big news!

In this episode, we’re talking about The Artist’s Way—what it actually is, why it keeps coming back into culture, and how to approach creativity without turning it into another self-improvement pressure cooker.We explore curiosity over productivity, rebuilding trust with yourself, and how small creative habits can quietly change everything. Plus, Katie shares an absolutely unhinged prism story that turns into one of those “wait… WHAT?” moments—and if you stick to the end, she shares big, life-hanging news that’s been quietly unfolding behind the scenes. What We Cover in This Episode• What The Artist’s Way really is (and what it’s not)• Why creativity shuts down under pressure and perfectionism• How habits can support creativity instead of suffocating it• Morning Pages: what they’re for, how to do them imperfectly, and why “doing them wrong” still works• Artist Dates as curiosity practice, not performance• The difference between discipline and devotion• Letting creativity be data, not identity• Why rest, play, and boredom are essential creative inputs• A wild prism moment that feels straight out of The Artist’s Way• Staying curious when something big is shifting in your life Key Takeaways• Creativity doesn’t respond to pressure—it responds to safety• You don’t need to be “good” at creativity to benefit from it• Small, consistent practices beat intense, sporadic effort• Curiosity is a more sustainable motivator than discipline• You’re allowed to make art quietly, privately, and imperfectly If You’re Feeling Stuck… This episode is for you if:• You feel creatively blocked or burned out• You’ve tried The Artist’s Way before and bounced off• You want more creativity but less pressure• You suspect something is shifting, but you’re not ready to name it yet Gentle Next Step (Optional, Not Homework) If this episode sparked something, try one small experiment this week:• Write one page instead of three• Take a solo walk without your phone• Follow one moment of curiosity without needing a result No rules. No gold stars. Just noticing. Mentioned in This Episode• The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron• Morning Pages• Artist Dates shaileymurphy.comohkatieday.com

Confidence, Style, & Dressing the Body You Have: Stop Settling for Clothes That Don’t Fit Your Life

Style That Feels Like Home. We dive into the empowering relationship between clothes, confidence, and the bodies we live in. We explore what it actually means to feel “at home” in your own skin—and your own style—without chasing trends, shrinking yourself, or trying to dress like someone you’re not.The conversation moves through body neutrality, signature style, and why comfort matters just as much as aesthetics. From color choices to fit to outerwear as a confidence tool, we reframe fashion as a form of self-trust rather than self-criticism. At its core, this episode is an invitation to stop settling—for uncomfortable clothes, outdated rules, or someone else’s version of what looks “right”—and start choosing what actually feels good. Key TakeawaysBody neutrality is a powerful and accessible starting point.Personal style should feel like home—not a costume.The most confident outfits come from self-trust, not trends.Comfort and confidence are directly connected.Every body has styles that support it—no fixing required.Trends are optional. Personal style is lasting.Great outerwear can change everything.Experimentation is how clarity is built.Self-acceptance always comes before self-expression. Sound Bites“Your style should feel like home.”“There is no bad body.”“We don’t SETTLE anymore.”“If it’s not comfortable, it’s not confidence.” Chapters00:00 – Style, Body Image, and Why This Conversation Matters02:47 – Comfort, Clothes, and Self-Trust05:52 – Body Types Without the Shame09:06 – What a Signature Style Really Is12:08 – Letting Yourself Experiment14:49 – Color, Patterns, and Personality18:09 – Style for Real Life and Real Movement21:01 – Why Outerwear Is a Power Move23:45 – Pulling the Whole Look Together27:25 – Seeing Beauty Without Conditions30:05 – Body Positivity vs. Body Neutrality34:29 – Finding What Actually Feels Like You35:54 – Trends: Use Them or Ignore Them40:45 – Navigating Fashion Without Losing Yourself46:31 – Laughing at Past Fashion Choices49:24 – Growth, Coaching, and Owning the Next Chapter shaileymurphy.comohkatieday.com

Our Go-To Gift Guide (to give… and also to receive, amiright?)

This week on Shailey & Katie’s Lemonade Stand, get ready for Black Friday we’re spilling our go-to gift ideas—the ones we actually give, actually love, and actually hope show up on our doorstep. We’re talking: Gifts that don’t cost a lot but feel thoughtful Gifts that are technically “a splurge,” but perfect for going-in-together with family or friends Gifts for creatives, moms, homebodies, entrepreneurs, and your spouse who “doesn’t need anything”. Whether you need a last-minute Amazon idea, a meaningful DIY, or a “treat yourself because you deserve it” moment, this episode has you covered. Pour your hot lemon...wassail? Peppermint mocha? and let’s make your Christmas shopping delightfully easy. In this episode, we share our favorite Christmas gift ideas for 2025, including:Affordable gift ideasCreative gift ideas for womenGifts for moms, entrepreneurs, and creativesExperience giftsSentimental gifts that feel personalBig splurge gifts you can go in on as a groupClutter-free gift ideas for minimalistsLast-minute Christmas gifts you can order fastYou’ll hear our real recommendations (not sponsored):The gifts we secretly want someone to give usThe inexpensive gift that feels luxeThe “holy grail” splurge gifts worth every pennyA few creative experience gifts that support more connection, more joy, and less stuffPerfect for:Anyone searching for Christmas gifts, simple gift ideas, holiday gifts for women, best gifts for moms, stocking stuffers, budget gifts, group gifts, and creative Christmas ideas.  shaileymurphy.comohkatieday.com

Practical Gratitude: Rewiring Your Brain for Positivity

   Takeaways Gratitude practice can change brain chemistry.Neuroplasticity allows for rewiring of negative thought patterns.Writing down positive experiences can shift focus from negative to positive.Gratitude can improve relationships and overall happiness.Consistency in gratitude practice is key to seeing benefits.Small daily practices can lead to significant changes over time.Toxic positivity can be a concern; balance is important.Gratitude can reduce stress and anxiety levels.Affirmations can help visualize and achieve goals.Engaging with difficult emotions can lead to deeper gratitude. Marriage can appear effortless when effort is put in.Shifting from 'work' to 'play' can enhance relationships.Gratitude practices can improve emotional well-being.The 'complaint diet' can help rewire negative thought patterns.Transforming complaints into requests fosters healthier communication.Using 'I' language reduces defensiveness in conversations.Acknowledging negative feelings is essential for growth.Toxic positivity can hinder authentic emotional expression.Effective communication requires understanding needs and solutions.Personal growth often comes from navigating difficult relationships.  SummaryIn this episode, Shailey and Katie dive into the real, practical side of gratitude — the kind that actually rewires your brain, improves your relationships, and helps you show up as a calmer, less-reactive human (science says so). They unpack how neuroplasticity works, why your brain loves repetition, and why gratitude isn’t about ignoring hard things — it’s about training your mind to notice more than just the problems. Katie jumps in with research on gratitude, self-awareness, and why “toxic positivity” isn’t the goal — acknowledging the real stuff is part of the healing. Together, they introduce a simple experiment to help listeners practice gratitude in a way that feels doable, not delusional. The Practical Gratitude Challenge Pick a trigger category — a person or area that normally sparks frustration — and choose your challenge level: Light:Do a one-time brain dump of everything good or redeemable about that challenging area/person. Medium:Write one genuine gratitude each day for two weeks. Intense:Write three specific gratitudes daily plus one “first-person goal” (a sentence you want to be true about you, written as if it already is). Bonus:Add The Complaint Diet for the week — pause before venting, redirect where it makes sense, and watch what shifts.  Titles Transforming Lemons into Lemonade: The Power of PositivityUnlocking Happiness: The Neuroscience of GratitudeRewiring Your Brain for PositivityPractical Steps to Cultivate GratitudeThe Science Behind Gratitude Practices  Sound bites "This episode's not for you.""You need a gratitude practice.""Gratitude practice changed my brain.""Gratitude is a drug.""Anything's better than nothing.""It takes work forever.""We just need to play a little bit.""I call it the complaint diet.""Leaders bring solutions.""That sucks. I can't imagine."  Chapters 00:00 Welcome to Positivity06:06 The Neuroscience of Gratitude12:37 Changing Your Brain's Default19:01 Practical Gratitude Practices26:51 Effortless Marriage: The Balance of Work and Play29:08 Gratitude as a Tool for Connection32:19 The Complaint Diet: A Year of Change35:31 Transforming Complaints into Requests39:50 Communication Strategies for Healthy Relationships42:16 Navigating Toxic Positivity49:26 Reflections and Regrets: The Journey of Growth  shaileymurphy.comohkatieday.com