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959 | No More Doing - What Word Are You Releasing This Year?

In this episode, Marsha invites listeners to question one of the most normalized words in entrepreneurship and personal growth: doing. As the year unfolds differently than expected, she shares how shifting from goal chasing to identity work has revealed a deeper pattern of pushing, proving, and over-efforting that many high performers unknowingly live inside.Through personal stories, nervous system awareness, and powerful metaphors, Marsha explores how constant “doing” keeps us locked in sympathetic survival mode, and why pausing, allowing, and receiving are not signs of weakness but essential components of sustainable growth. She reframes success through the lens of capacity, regulation, and support, offering a new vision of leadership where rest is not earned but required.This episode is a permission slip to slow down, clean up the language you use with yourself, and build a life and business that supports your health, relationships, and long-term vision.Highlights[01:10] Why this year feels different and the shift from goal setting to identity work[02:00] Bringing structured support into the business and noticing the foundation gaps[02:47] What happens when someone finally tells you “something has to come off your calendar”[03:26] The realization that the word “doing” was quietly driving pressure and burnout[03:57] How language subconsciously signals pushing, proving, and never being enough[05:08] The underdog narrative and why “push harder” stories wire us for overdrive[06:22] Committing to recovery as deeply as commitment to hustle[07:28] Reframing success as building capacity, not grinding harder[08:36] Catching the word that activates your sympathetic nervous system[09:43] Proof that pausing, receiving, and support can still create massive resultsMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

959 | No More Doing. What Word Are You Releasing This Year?

In this episode, Marsha invites listeners to question one of the most normalized words in entrepreneurship and personal growth: doing. As the year unfolds differently than expected, she shares how shifting from goal chasing to identity work has revealed a deeper pattern of pushing, proving, and over-efforting that many high performers unknowingly live inside.Through personal stories, nervous system awareness, and powerful metaphors, Marsha explores how constant “doing” keeps us locked in sympathetic survival mode, and why pausing, allowing, and receiving are not signs of weakness but essential components of sustainable growth. She reframes success through the lens of capacity, regulation, and support, offering a new vision of leadership where rest is not earned but required.This episode is a permission slip to slow down, clean up the language you use with yourself, and build a life and business that supports your health, relationships, and long-term vision.Highlights[01:10] Why this year feels different and the shift from goal setting to identity work[02:00] Bringing structured support into the business and noticing the foundation gaps[02:47] What happens when someone finally tells you “something has to come off your calendar”[03:26] The realization that the word “doing” was quietly driving pressure and burnout[03:57] How language subconsciously signals pushing, proving, and never being enough[05:08] The underdog narrative and why “push harder” stories wire us for overdrive[06:22] Committing to recovery as deeply as commitment to hustle[07:28] Reframing success as building capacity, not grinding harder[08:36] Catching the word that activates your sympathetic nervous system[09:43] Proof that pausing, receiving, and support can still create massive resultsMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HERE

958 | From Prison to Purpose with Ken Miller

In this episode, I am speaking with Ken Miller. Ken is a speaker, author, and nonprofit leader whose powerful personal story inspires transformation and resilience. As the author of Becoming Ken: From Prison to Purpose, he shares his journey from addiction and incarceration to becoming a respected voice in leadership, fundraising, and personal development.Ken is the founder of Ken Miller Speaks, a platform dedicated to helping people rise above adversity by embracing truth, authenticity, and purpose. His signature keynote, From Rock Bottom to RESILIENCE, empowers audiences to turn their pain into power and live with intention. Drawing from lived experience and over two decades of leadership in the nonprofit sector, Ken brings a unique blend of vulnerability, strategy, and inspiration to every stage he steps on.He also leads Denali FSP, a successful fundraising and grant consulting firm, where he helps nonprofits build sustainable impact. Whether speaking to corporate teams, recovery communities, or leadership audiences, Ken’s message is clear: you are not defined by your past—you are shaped by the choices you make moving forward.Ken’s work has helped countless individuals and organizations unlock their potential through radical honesty, resilience, and the courage to lead from within.Highlights[00:01:00] Why Ken wrote Becoming Ken and the role integrity played in finishing it[00:03:40] What it means to stop living in an adversarial relationship with yourself[00:05:00] Ken’s early life in foster care and how abandonment shaped his identity[00:07:00] Academic success alongside deep trauma and hidden violence[00:10:30] Learning to lie as a survival skill and wearing masks to stay safe[00:13:45] Alcohol, drugs, and how addiction escalated rapidly in college[00:16:10] Losing control once substances entered the picture[00:21:30] Prison, repeated treatment centers, and the cost of untreated shame[00:29:00] Carrying unspoken trauma and the power of long-held secrets[00:35:00] Homelessness, survival on the streets, and hitting rock bottom[00:47:00] The moment everything changed and choosing life[01:09:00] Self-forgiveness as the most powerful lesson of healing and freedomConnect with KenInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekenmillerspeaksEmail: info@kenmillerspeaks.comWebsite: http://www.kenmillerspeaks.com/Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterDownload FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERELearn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG. Click HERESubscribe on YouTube. Click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

957 | Keep Your Side of the Street Clean

In this episode, Marsha dives into one of the most charged parts of leadership and visibility: criticism. If you want to be seen, heard, and impactful, this conversation is essential listening.Marsha breaks down why visibility is not a strategy problem, but a nervous system and identity issue. Drawing from personal experiences, client stories, and NLP principles, she explains why criticism hits so deeply, how the subconscious scans for danger, and why one negative comment can drown out fifty supportive ones if you let it.This episode is a permission slip to stay in your lane, keep your side of the street clean, and continue rising even when others try to pull you back.Highlights[02:05] Why visibility is nervous system work, not just strategy[04:40] A personal story of being harshly judged and the moment everything shifted[06:30] Why criticism hurts most when it mirrors something unhealed inside you[08:20] The truth about judgment: it’s never actually about you[10:15] Collaboration vs criticism and why your circle shapes your expansion[12:45] You will never be criticized by someone who has done what you’re doing[15:05] How the brain’s threat system fixates on one negative voice[17:10] Choosing to focus on truth instead of emotional noise[19:40] The “sides of the street” metaphor and staying in your values[23:55] Boosters on a rocket and why some people are not meant to come with you[28:10] Keeping your side of the street clean, regardless of how others behave[31:30] A reminder not to shrink, because your voice is meant to help someoneMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP

956 | Staying Heart-Wired When Life Gets Hard

In today’s episode, Marsha explores what it truly means to stay Heart-Wired when life feels heavy, uncertain, or emotionally demanding. Recorded during the holidays, this conversation meets listeners in the reality that leadership, visibility, and openness don’t pause just because things are hard — and neither does the nervous system’s instinct to protect.Marsha breaks down the difference between being hard wired (armored, shut down, surviving) and heart wired (regulated, open, emotionally present), and why most people default to protection when things feel unpredictable. Drawing from neuroscience, lived experience, and real world examples, she explains how staying open isn’t about bypassing pain, but about building capacity, self trust, and sustainable leadership.This episode is an invitation to stop armoring up, reconnect with your heart as a source of intelligence and safety, and lead yourself forward even when it would feel easier to shut down.Highlights[00:45] Why staying heart wired is hardest exactly when you need it most[01:20] The science of heart to brain communication and why thinking harder doesn’t help[02:15] Why slowing down, breathing, and listening create more clarity than force[03:10] Hard wired vs heart wired: survival mode versus regulated leadership[04:05] Why numbing out and armoring up feel easier but cost you more long term[05:10] The subconscious need for predictability and why hard seasons trigger shutdown[06:05] Common fear stories that surface under stress: “I’m too much” and “If they see me, they’ll leave”[07:10] How armoring kills creativity, connection, and support[08:00] Regulating through breath and anchoring back into the heart[08:55] Vulnerability as expansion, not weakness[09:50] Turning discomfort, criticism, and visibility into leadership fuel[11:05] Why belief is the foundation required for what you’re building next[13:00] Your heart as a superpower meant to be used when things are hardMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Outspoken NLP Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/OUTSPOKENNLP