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950 | Conscious vs Subconscious — What Does It All Mean?

In this milestone 950th episode, Marsha welcomes listeners into the new year with one of the most important conversations you can have before setting goals for 2026. She breaks down the real reason most goals fail, not because of effort or discipline, but because the conscious mind and subconscious mind are not working together.Marsha explains how your subconscious mind runs the majority of your behaviors, decisions, identity, and nervous system responses, even when your conscious mind thinks it is in control. Using simple metaphors and real time examples from her own business, she shows how internal contraction, fear, and old programming quietly sabotage growth, visibility, and capacity.This episode is an invitation to pause, take inventory, and stop trying to outwork beliefs your body does not yet feel safe holding. If you want 2026 to look different, this conversation will change how you approach goals, support, investment, visibility, and success itself.Highlights[01:05] Why recovery after the holidays matters more than jumping back into productivity[02:20] The power of the pause and how growth happens in stillness[03:10] Your subconscious runs 95 percent of your life, not your conscious mind[04:20] Why vision boards and goal setting only work at the 5 percent level[05:10] The ceiling and floor metaphor and how belief determines capacity[06:30] Conscious goals vs subconscious safety and why they often conflict[07:55] How nervous system contraction quietly blocks expansion[08:50] You cannot outwork what you do not believe is possible[10:05] A real time example of feeling contraction around investment and growth[11:20] Identifying old fear based patterns versus present truth[13:05] Visibility as a subconscious safety issue, not a confidence problem[15:35] Receiving support as a form of rewiring identity and capacityMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Unbothered AD Dec 2025https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast

949 | The Top Lessons I’m Taking Into 2026

In this final solo episode of the year, Marsha reflects on the identity she is stepping into as she prepares for 2026. Rather than revisiting grief or hard lessons, this conversation focuses on what the year built in her, the internal shifts that created sustainable growth, and the leadership standards she’s carrying forward into the new year.Marsha shares ten defining realizations around capacity, regulation, boundaries, identity, creativity, community, and self trust. She unpacks why strategy only works when your nervous system can hold it, how regulated leadership changes everything, and why success actually thrives inside clear boundaries. This episode is an invitation to pause, take inventory, and consciously decide who you are becoming before setting goals for the year ahead.Highlights[02:18] Why this episode is about what the year built, not what broke her[04:52] Capacity before strategy and learning when a yes is actually a no[06:02] Regulated leaders make better decisions and why the pause is power[07:44] Strong boundaries and not every message deserves an immediate response[07:55] Identity first and why results collapse without internal clarity[09:16] Letting go of pressure and recognizing hustle as contraction[10:32] Trusting her voice as an asset and learning to pivot in real time[11:55] Community over isolation and learning how to receive support[13:21] Ending the pattern of playing small and reframing self doubt[14:40] Creativity, play, and why fun is actually productive[15:45] Why success loves boundaries and self honesty[17:47] You are not behind and sustainable growth happens in regulationMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Unbothered AD Dec 2025https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast

948 | My 2025 Wrapped: The Identity-Shifting Year I Didn’t See Coming

In this episode, Marsha shares an unfiltered wrap up of her year through the lens of identity level growth. Inspired by a viral “Spotify Wrapped for your life” trend, she walks listeners through what it really looks like when your identity cracks open so your capacity can expand.This was not a year of mild discomfort. It was a year of deep nervous system work, grief, growth, and profound internal rewiring. Marsha reflects on massive professional expansion, personal loss, shifting values, letting go of hustle, and learning to listen to her body instead of pushing through it.This episode is a reminder that growth often feels destabilizing before it feels empowering, and that identity shifts are uncomfortable by design. If your year stretched you, broke you open, or forced you to change how you lead, rest, or relate to yourself, this conversation will land.Highlights[03:40] The viral ChatGPT wrap up that perfectly captured the energy of her year[06:10] Why this year felt like an identity level reckoning, not just growth[09:25] The difference between wins and capacity building[12:50] A breakdown of everything that was brand new in business this year[17:30] Why grief was the dominant emotion, even in a successful year[21:05] Capacity growth is uncomfortable and there is no way around it[24:40] Identity shifts feel like pressure before expansion[28:15] How NLP explains identity change at the deepest level[33:10] Realizing her values had changed because they were now embodied[36:45] Letting go of hustle and asking for help instead[41:20] What happens when your body forces you to listen[45:30] Why this year didn’t break her, it expanded herMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Unbothered AD Dec 2025https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast

947 | Releasing Burnout to Create Space for Change with Lisa Blanchet

In this episode, Marsha and Meg speak with Lisa Blanchet. Lisa is a Change Coach, facilitator, trainer, and midlife catalyst who helps women and leaders navigate moments when life feels uncertain and everything is up for renegotiation. After 25+ years leading transformation across industries, and her own journey through burnout, Lisa now guides women in midlife to rewrite the stories that limit them and live a life that feels like theirs. She also partners with leadership teams to build alignment, strengthen collaboration, and lead people-centric change with clarity and confidence. Her work blends lived experience, practical tools, and a deep belief that change is personal, courageous, and possible at any age.Highlights: [03:10] Lisa shares how decades in corporate life kept her on autopilot and disconnected from herself.[07:45] Burnout showed up as exhaustion, disconnection, and a life that no longer felt sustainable.[11:20] The moment she realized this couldn’t be her life anymore and chose change.[15:40] Taking an extended pause helped Lisa reconnect with who she actually is.[19:10] Why change isn’t easy, even when you desperately want something different.[23:35] The calendar as a powerful mirror for boundaries, energy, and self prioritization.[27:50] Putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s a conscious choice.[31:30] Learning to pause before saying yes and practicing small no’s.[36:55] How Lisa’s quality of life has transformed over the last decade.[41:20] Curiosity over judgment as a catalyst for personal and professional growth.Connect with Lisa:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisablanchet_Website: www.creatingspaceforchange.comLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/lisablanchetBurnout Conversation Kit & Midlife Clarity Guide: https://creatingspaceforchange.com/burnout-conversation-kit/Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastUnbothered Mind Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastDownload FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERELearn more about changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program HERE. Use Code PODCAST to receive 20% off. Code FASTACTION20Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG. Click HERESubscribe on YouTube. Click HEREMentioned in this episode:Unbothered AD Dec 2025https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast

946 | The 10 Hardest Lessons I Learned This Year

In this end of year solo episode, Marsha does something different. Instead of sharing the highlights, wins, or best moments of the year, she opens up about the 10 hardest lessons that shaped her, stretched her, and ultimately changed the way she leads, rests, loves, and builds.From profound loss and grief to boundaries, visibility, rest, identity, and emotional capacity, Marsha reflects on a year of shedding, healing, and recalibration. This episode is a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t come from bypassing the hard parts, but from letting them soften and expand you. If you’re closing out the year feeling tender, reflective, or in transition, this one will meet you right where you are.Highlights[02:40] Why Marsha chose to share the hardest lessons instead of the wins[05:55] Doing it alone isn’t strength, learning to receive support[10:48] Outgrowing people while still loving them from a distance[14:30] Why success requires emotional capacity, not more hustle[18:12] Triggers as teachers and how expanders reveal your growth edges[22:55] Rest is not optional, it’s strategic leadership[27:40] Not everyone is meant to understand or hold your vision[32:10] Visibility brings criticism, and why that’s not your problem[36:45] Abandoning yourself always comes with a cost[41:20] Identity before strategy, every single timeMarsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and PodcasterJoin the 2026 HWCEO Mastermind: https://meghan-weir.thrivecart.com/hwceomastermind/Unbothered Mind Private Podcast https://www.marshavanw.com/unbotheredmindpodcastUnbothered Entrepreneur Masterclass (for the Podcast Listeners): https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcastDownload “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in January 2026, in person or virtual) HEREThe Stories We Tell Ourselves Digital Program August Promo Save $333 HERE. Tap the “Follow” button never to miss a show, and if you love the show, please feel free to tag me on social media, share it with a friend, or leave me a rating and review. This really helps the show grow!Website: www.marshavanw.comConnect on IG, click HERESubscribe on YouTube, click HEREMentioned in this episode:Unbothered AD Dec 2025https://www.marshavanw.com/unbothered-entrepreneur-masterclass-podcast