Life Uncut

Ask Uncut - Bad Breath, Baby Names and Betrayal 

Welcome back to Ask Uncut, where we answer your deep and burning questions!Vibes for the week:Britt - Weekender Premium Foldable Travel BagLaura - The Perfect Neighbor on Netflix Keeshia - Lexon Mina Sunrise Sunrise Alarm Clock PARTNER HAS TERRIBLE DENTAL HYGIENE My partner of a decade has terrible dental hygiene. Always has, but when he lived at home during our early years of dating, his mum would nag him about it so it wasn't as bad. He has a huge fear of the dentist, and despite many conversations, me booking appointments for him (that get cancelled) etc, nothing changes. I've even told him how scared it makes me for his health, because I know dental problems can lead to more. On top of that, it kills our intimacy. Sometimes I can barely stand to be near him when he's talking, let alone kiss him. He's given me UTI's before from eating me out. What the hell can I even do at this point, the fight feels futile. CONCERT TICKET ETTIQUITEI'm a massive Hilary Duff fan. Three of us decided to go together, so we all entered the week-long battle trying to get seats. On the final day another friend said she’d try too and would grab tickets for herself and me if she got in. Well… she actually got through and bought them. So I had to tell the original group I already had a ticket. They were not impressed and said I went behind their backs. So here’s my question: what’s the actual concert ticket etiquette? If you say you’re going with a group, are you supposed to stick with them only, even if it means you might miss out completely? Or is it fair game during a ticket sale to try every possible option and see what comes through? MY PARENTS WANT TO HELP NAME OUR BABYMy parents want to help name our unborn baby. Am I wrong for feeling annoyed by it?? My parents are great, I live interstate from them so I don’t see them often (maybe once or twice a year). I’m 38 weeks pregnant and keep getting messages from my mum suggesting names for our baby. Is it just me or is naming your baby something special between you and your partner? I know it’s harmless coming up with suggestions for us but it’s just giving me the ick every time I see another message come through with a new baby name! I understand that living so far away, they feel like they’re missing out on a lot so I’m remaining polite but deep down it’s driving me insane! I’m mindful it could just be pregnancy hormones and I’m over reacting. DO I TELL MY FRIEND HUSBANDI just found out my best friend’s husband has been having an affair. She is completely blindsided. The thing is… I’m not surprised. And that’s what’s eating me alive. Last year, my husband and I went away with them for a weekend. At the time, my husband and I were in a really fragile place — we’d recently terminated a pregnancy and were struggling a lot. During that weekend, my best friend’s husband hit on me. Nothing huge or explicit, but enough that it was clear. I never reciprocated, I never crossed a line, and nothing happened. But if I’m brutally honest… I liked the attention. I was feeling low and disconnected in my own relationship, and it felt good to be wanted. I shut it down and we basically pretended it didn’t happen. After that weekend, I told my husband I didn’t trust him and that I thought he was the type who would cheat one day. Fast forward to now — we’ve just found out on another trip away that he’s been having an affair. She is shattered. And I feel so guilty that I didn’t warn her about the vibe I got from him a year ago. Part of me thinks: what would I even have said? “Your husband hit on me and I have a feeling he’ll cheat?” That feels messy and potentially friendship-ending. But another part of me feels like I failed her by staying quiet. Now I’m stuck wondering: Do I tell my husband (if he doesn’t already know the full extent of how it made me feel)? Do I tell my best friend what happened last year? Or is this truly none of my business and I just support her now? I never betrayed my husband. I never betrayed her. But I can’t shake the guilt. What would you do?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Offcuts - Is This The End Of Our Favourite Cheese?

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Laura's protesting a negative review with her chest Our random animal fun facts Boy kibble vs girl dinner They want to ban PJs at the airport Aussie Brie and Camembert are the same Could this be the end of the group assignment? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our First Friday Guest Ask Uncut! With Toni Lodge

Hey lifers! We know you love ask uncut! The data tells us that you love ask uncut. They’re our most popular episodes so we have decided that once a month (ish - give or take 😂) we are going to have a guest ask uncut on a Friday! When thinking of the guest line up there was one person that we all unanimously said YES to and it was Toni Lodge! Toni has joined the podcast before (you can listen/watch here). She also joined our live show a few years ago in Perth! Today she is here to answer your deep and burning questions but first we will start with the pettiest hill she’s willing to die on: It’s okay to use your windscreen washer whenever you like; even if there’s someone behind you. Then we jump into your questions! CAN I STOP AFTER I'VE COME?Is it okay for me to have sex with my partner until I come, and then just stop - if I can tell he won't come too? My partner comes about 1 out of 2 times we have sex - and he always has, since we've been together. It used to annoy me but now I accept his sex drive is lower than mine and also, he doesn't think it's an issue. We used to keep going regardless, for fun and because we both enjoyed it. But I'm tired and pregnant, and have a toddler, and I can tell if he won't climax in a session... sooo can I just roll off him when I'm done, or do I have to wait til he calls it quits, even if it takes ages?? CAN I SHAVE IN THE PUBLIC POOL SHOWER?So let me preface this by saying: I have two small children, work part time, study full time and take most of family mental load. I get very little time to myself and very rarely get to shower by myself or uninterrupted. Twice a week I go swimming at the local aquatic centre. It’s my time all to myself, no children. I go to a pool that does not have child facilities so it’s very much me having a grown up moment. I also go during the day when it is not very busy, so the change rooms and showers are all free (this becomes important later). The shower I have after my swim is bliss. I can close my eyes and pretend the hairballs and the foot fungus don’t exist and for a moment I can just stand there. No screams of ‘muuuuum’, no toddler telling me I have a hairy ‘pagina’, no husband fumbling around the kitchen using every pot we own to boil spaghetti. Bliss. So I do everything: I wash my hair, I scrub my body, I double cleanse my face and (this is the gross bit) I shave my legs. Is this considered disgusting? Is shaving in a public shower acceptable, given the circumstances? I’ve posted under a pseudonym because I’m not going to stop (just being honest), but I’m so interested to know your thoughts. FOUND OUT DAD HAS ANOTHER CHILD AND I’M HURTOkay this might be a big one but I need some advice as I’m really struggling with this. I haven’t had a real relationship with my dad for years after he walked out on me and my family after an affair he had, I have always struggled with my relationship with him and it had been so back and forth for a long time and I was always the one to forgive him and give him chance after chance and would constantly have my heart broken fast forward to 6 years ago when I found out he has another child with the partner he cheated on my mum with, I recently have seen a photo of him with his new family and for some reason it has absolutely broken me, I feel as though I wasn’t enough and so he has replaced me. Although I have no relationship with him and that all ended up being on my end as I was over being hurt by him but I don’t know why I still feel so heartbroken over this revelation. Am I silly for feeling this way? RED FLAG TO HAVE A GIRL BEST FRIEND THAT HE DATED? I just recently started seeing someone. We are in our mid 20s. We’ve been on about 4 dates and it feels really lovely and steady. On our last date, he told me about a girl best friend. We’re not at the stage of meeting each other’s friends yet, so I haven’t met her yet. He told me they’ve been friends for several years, they go to uni together being in the same class, and they dated for a year before deciding it was a mistake. She has a boyfriend now. I appreciate him telling me about her, as if things progress we’ll be doing long distance and it would have been easy to hide. I didn’t feel anxious when he told me as he reiterated that the chapter is very closed, mutually. However he’s said they text every day. He was very understanding that it’s unconventional and he’s happy to answer any questions I have. I wanted to take a few days to think about the conversation before I had it. Is this a major red flag, and if it is, what should I be asking him about their relationship or what boundaries should I be putting in place? I don’t want to control his friendship, and he has invited me to meet her in a few weeks, but I’m nervous. You can find Toni on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Turning 40, Photos Of Your Ex and Looksmaxxing

Hey Lifers! It’s finally Laura’s 40th birthday (month) and she’s feeling an unexpected way about it; despite what other people in the content world might think!We speak about the feeling of knowing yourself fully and peace that comes as we get a bit older. Can you still have photos of your ex in your phone? Does it depend on what ‘kind’ of photos they are? We unpack a situation that unfolded on MAFS and why we feel weird deleting photos from the past. Plus we chat about the terrifying trend being sold to young men - looksmaxxing There’s this streamer called Clavicular who has blown up online in the past year. On the surface, looksmaxxing sounds like skincare, grooming, self-improvement but this is not just gym bro content, darker.Is this just the male version of long-standing beauty pressure on women? Or is it a pipeline into something black pill culture? Are we normalising surgical self-editing as self-care? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ask Uncut - Is It Unreasonable to Ask Your Ex Not to Move On?

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning questions! Keeshia has a new haircut that she’s claiming is ‘for the girls’. Laura has an ask uncut of her own and we’ve come to the realisation that sometimes we don’t react in the ways we think we will in some situations. Vibes for the week:Britt - Reality Check: Inside America's Next Top Model - Netflix Keeshia - The Babies Kept in a Mysterious Los Angeles Mansion - The New Yorker Laura - @womenshealthwithheidi Then we jump into your questions! I ASKED MY EX NOT TO MOVE ON FOR 1 MONTH - IS THIS UNREASONABLE?My partner and I (of 3 years) recently separated. We continued living together for a month after this, trying to make it work, but I'm now moving out. He had purchased a house and a dog very briefly before we got together, so they are technically his, which means my whole world is changing, but his stays much the same. I've asked him to not do or start anything with anyone else for a month while I find my feet - I'm absolutely devastated and am so scared of being immediately replaced and having our relationship feel like it meant nothing to him. He has said he isn't in a hurry to move on but can't commit to this. Is my request reasonable? I'm asking him out of respect for me and the life we've had together. HUSBAND WANTS TO TAKE OUR KIDS TO CHURCH, I’M NOT RELIGIOUSMy husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 4. We have two beautiful girls, a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old. We are currently having some in depth conversations about religion. When I first met my husband he let me know he had faith and grew up as a Christian and went to church as a family. When he and his family moved to Australia they stopped going to church and there was no talk about religion. In the last few years his brother, mother and father have started going to church again. My husband has recently started talking to me about wanting to get involved back in the church and taking our girls. For context, I am not religious and grew up in a non religious household. He would like to start taking the girls to church occasionally and would like me to come as well. I would like to broach the subject of religion when the girls are older and are able to do their own research, learn about all the different types of religion, question it and form their own opinions. I don’t want them going up and thinking Christianity is the one and only way. Please don’t get me wrong I do understand and respect Christianity and certain aspects of it .. like being a kind and selfless person, having grace etc.. I'm just not sure about some of the other aspects as I am not sure I agree with them. How do we find the balance for our family? ENGAGEMENT RING IS SO NOT MEEarly last year my partner and I went and looked at engagement rings. I chose a plain 2mm gold band with a 3 carat oval diamond (lab grown). I always wanted the solitaire to be the main focal point with no diamonds on the band. While we were there I tried wedding bands on as well. Initially I tried on a 2mm band that had small diamonds all the way around which my partner really liked, I said it felt uncomfortable and scratchy against my other fingers and I always pictured myself having small oval diamonds. Fast forward to late last year, my partner got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. There was my beautiful solitaire oval diamond but to my surprise the band had little diamonds around it just like the wedding band he liked. He said he wanted to add a little something special to it. I have never told him how I feel but I really don’t like the ring and every time I look at it I feel like it’s not me. We are currently looking at wedding bands and he has sent me what he wants. He keeps asking me what I want and I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t know what wedding band I want now because the one I wanted looks stupid with this ring now that it has the little diamonds around the band. I feel my only wedding band options are a plain gold band or get one exactly like an engagement ring band. I really want to have the diamonds removed so I can have my dream ring but I don’t want to hurt his feelings or seem like a brat. I also imagine having the diamonds removed from the band would be expensive. I’d love your help You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.