Said in Therapy

The Dating and Break up Crisis: Why People Ghost, Detach, and Leave So Fast

Modern dating has changed and so have breakups. In this episode of Said In Therapy, we unpack the rise of the “emotional disappearance”: situationships, avoidant attachment, the slow fade, ghosting, and why so many people detach the moment things start feeling real.If you’ve ever been blindsided by someone who seemed all-in… then suddenly “wasn’t ready,” this episode is for you. We break down what’s actually happening beneath the surface psychologically, why finding a serious partner feels harder than ever, and how to protect your heart without becoming emotionally numb.You’ll learn how to spot emotional unavailability early, the difference between chemistry and nervous system addiction, and what to look for if you want real commitment in a dating culture built around avoidance.In this episode we cover:Why breakups feel colder and more confusing nowThe avoidant attachment cycle (and why it’s so addictive)Situationship culture + dating apps impactWhy people leave at the first sign of discomfortHow to date for emotional capacity (not potential)How to heal after unclear endings and rebuild self-trustIf this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity and remember: stability is the new romance.Trigger warning: abandonment, attachment wounds, breakups, ghosting

Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Healing

Healing doesn’t stop hurting just because you understand it.I recorded this episode from a place I don’t talk about often — the beginning of my training, when I lost someone I loved and learned, very quickly, that insight doesn’t protect you from pain.In this episode, I share how that experience reshaped the way I understand healing, both as a psychologist and as a human. We talk about grief, self-awareness, and why functioning isn’t the same as being healed.If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” this one is for you.There is no timeline your nervous system is late for.

Birthday Special 2026!

A birthday special with a big-picture conversation. In this episode of Said in Therapy, I hand the mic to my close friend Amanda, who steps in as guest host to interview me on another year of growth. Together, they dive into what self-care really looks like beyond the buzzwords, how therapy has shapes the personal and professional journey, and the mindset I am carrying into 2026. The conversation also expands outward, exploring thoughtful predictions on how AI may impact society, relationships, and mental health in the years ahead. Reflective and with an attempt to be forward-looking, this episode blends celebration with meaningful dialogue and, as always, leaves space for curiosity, healing, and much more. Happy new year!

Self-Compassion and the Inner Critic

In this episode of Said in Therapy we dives into the powerful topic of self-compassion and the inner critic, that harsh voice inside us that keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and self-doubt.Why do we listen to it? How can we start talking to ourselves with kindness instead of criticism? And what actually happens when we shift from self-judgment to self-compassion.

AI and Therapy: Answering your Questions

In this follow-up to our AI and therapy discussion, we dive into the most common questions people are asking. Can AI really understand emotions? Is your data safe? Will therapists be replaced? I break down the real risks, the ethical challenges, and how to use AI tools wisely without losing the human touch. If you're curious or cautious about AI in mental health, this one's for you.