Cool Change

83. From Passenger to Pioneer: Owning Your Authority with Jillian Reilly

So many of us are unconsciously waiting for approval—running inherited scripts, following old rules, and sitting in the passenger seat of our own lives. In this episode of Cool Change, Chuck Allen talks with author and change guide Jillian Reilly about the radical act of giving ourselves permission.Together they explore why self-authorization matters more than ever, how to spot the quiet “stirrings” that signal it’s time for change, and practical ways to start listening to your inner voice—without waiting for someone else to green-light your life.Whether you’re facing a career shift, navigating relationships, or simply craving a new way of showing up, this conversation is an invitation to slide into the driver’s seat and design a life that feels like you.Resources & Links:Jillian Reilly’s book The 10 Permissions: Amazon | Barnes & NobleJillian’s website: tenpermissions.comLearn more about the Cool Change Method: coolchangelifedesign.comConnect with Chuck:Podcast: Cool Change on Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWebsite: coolchangelifedesign.comInstagram: @chuckallen

82. Step 6: The Integration - Turning Insight Into Identity (6 of 6 in the Cool Change Method™ Series)

In this final episode of the Cool Change Method™ series, Chuck Allen dives deep into Step 6: The Integration. This isn't about completion—it's about living fully into the transformations you've made and continually evolving your identity in everyday life.Chuck shares a powerful story about his encounter with Bernie Marcus, co-founder of Home Depot, and reflects on the power of continually leaning forward, staying curious, and keeping your dreams bigger than your memories.Key Takeaways:Integration means continually evolving—embracing the journey, not just the destination.Practical ways to notice and honor your personal growth.Techniques to consciously apply your insights and new identity in daily scenarios.How integration can be joyful, playful, and deeply satisfying.The role of community in supporting your integration journey.Action Step: Take a moment this week to consciously visualize and rehearse showing up as your new self in a specific scenario. Notice and celebrate your growth.Quote to Remember:“When your memories outweigh your dreams, the end is near.” (source: Andy Stanley)Resources:Website: coolchangelifedesign.comFollow on Instagram @chuckallenand TikTok: @coolchangechuckIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who's navigating their own transition. Together, we grow better.Keep practicing. Keep becoming. Keep living intentionally.

81. Step 5: The Practice — When You Rewrite Your Rhythm, One Small Choice at a Time (5 of 6 in the Cool Change Method™ Series)

In this episode, Chuck walks us through the fifth step of the Cool Change Method™: The Practice. He explores the quiet, grounded work of integrating belief and behavior—of building new rhythms, one decision at a time.You’ll hear:Why simplicity and elimination are essential for sustainable changeA powerful metaphor about software vs. firmware—and why belief change matters more than behavior changeA personal story about what it really took to show up as a present father across 2,000 milesA practical morning ritual to anchor your intention in the real worldAn honest reflection on why falling out of rhythm isn’t failure—it’s part of the workThis is not about perfection. It’s about return.The change you’re after isn’t hiding from you. It’s waiting to be practiced.

80. Step 4: The Design - Upgrading the 99% (4 of 6 in the Cool Change Method™ Series)

This is the fourth step in the Cool Change journey—a series that guides you through navigating meaningful transitions with clarity, courage, and intention.After:🌱 The Stirring – when something within you begins to shift🪞 The Mirror – when you start seeing yourself more clearly🔥 The Disruption – when old patterns break and new truths emerge……comes 🧭 The Design: the moment you stop drifting and begin shaping your life on purpose.But here’s the twist: design doesn’t start with massive reinvention.It starts with small, seemingly insignificant moments—the quiet 99% of life that most of us overlook.In this episode, Chuck shares a pivotal story from his early 20s, when a Tony Robbins course and a bowl of instant oatmeal shifted everything. That experience launched a lifelong practice of life design, rooted not in control or planning—but in intention, iteration, and everyday joy.You’ll learn:Why the key to change isn’t dramatic decisions, but subtle upgradesHow to identify where your life has become smaller than it needs to beA simple “1–10” tool that can immediately increase your daily sense of meaningWhat it feels like to shift from reacting to designingHow to choose a direction—even if you don’t know the destination

79. Step 3: The Disruption -- It's Time to Take the Wheel (3 of 6 in the Cool Change Method™ Series)

Are you stuck in a pattern you didn’t choose… but keep repeating?Do you ever feel like your life is running on autopilot, and no matter how hard you try, you keep ending up in the same place?That’s not a motivation problem. It’s a disruption problem.In this episode, Chuck Allen helps you identify the unconscious beliefs that are driving your behaviors—and gives you a practical tool to begin breaking free. This is the third stage of the Cool Change Method™—where awareness turns into agency, and real change begins.You’ll learn: • Why behavior change doesn’t last without belief change • How to know when you’re truly ready to disrupt a pattern • The difference between performative change and real traction • A simple Pattern Interrupt Practice to apply immediately • Why your focus must be top-of-mind, not buried in a docYou’ll also hear a story from Chuck’s time at The Home Depot that changed his leadership identity—and a deeply personal reflection on the grief and freedom that come with disrupting what no longer serves you or the people around you.🎧 This is the moment to take the wheel of your life.🔁 Share this episode with someone who’s ready for real change.▶ Listen now, or catch up on the first two episodes in the series: • Episode 77: The Stirring • Episode 78: The Mirror