Babbles Nonsense

Babbling About Accountability: The Mirror We All Love to Avoid

#212: What if accountability could feel like relief instead of punishment? We take a hard, honest look at the patterns that drive our reactions—scrolling to numb, anger to protect, silence to avoid—and explore how awareness turns pain into data and boundaries into self-respect. I start with a small but telling experiment: deleting social media during Lent to cut the dopamine loop and face what I’ve been avoiding. From there, we unpack the difference between false accountability (self-blame, people-pleasing, carrying others’ failures) and the real thing: noticing our triggers, naming our patterns, and taking ownership of the part that’s ours, no more and no less.We walk through why inner work is messy but liberating. Anger often feels safer because the nervous system rewards it with certainty and adrenaline; vulnerability shakes us open. I share practical language shifts—how “I don’t care” often hides “I cared and it hurt”—and the two questions that change everything: Where have I felt this before? Why did this affect me so deeply? Those prompts help trace the roots of our reactions and stop the spiral from repeating. We also clear up a buzzword: everyday narcissistic tendencies are common protective reflexes, not a diagnosis, and accountability is the antidote that brings us back to truth.Three real-life examples ground the ideas. When someone’s silence stings, the work is recognizing capacity and not arguing with reality. When work stress spikes irritability, the work is asking for help and dropping loads that aren’t ours. When overgiving leads to resentment, the work is repairing boundaries and taking responsibility for the energy we continue to spend. Relationships move forward not by copying each other’s styles, but by learning each other’s wiring—communication, capacity, and care included. If you’re ready to trade blame for clarity and avoidance for growth, press play and sit with the questions that set you free.If this resonated, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review to help others find these conversations. What pattern are you unlearning this week?You can now send us a text to ask a question or review the show. We would love to hear from you! PodMatchPodMatch Automatically Matches Ideal Podcast Guests and Hosts For InterviewsSupport the showFollow me on social: https://www.instagram.com/babbles_nonsense/

Babbling About Why Saint Valentine Wouldn't Approve

#211: Love proves itself in presence, not in posts—and that’s the heartbeat of our latest conversation. We start by zooming out from the flower-and-feed version of Valentine’s Day to the story of Saint Valentine, a reminder that love began as a risky choice rooted in conviction. From there, we challenge the modern script: the pressure to perform, the chase for butterflies, and the quiet ache of measuring ourselves against curated timelines.We unpack a steadier definition of love through the Corinthians lens—patient, kind, not boastful—and contrast it with the stories that shaped us. Disney rescue arcs and grand gestures taught many of us to confuse attention with love and chemistry with compatibility. As we compare fantasy to adult life, we talk plainly about what endures: consistent behavior, repair over blame, and a willingness to listen without making someone shrink to fit. That’s where attachment styles enter the chat. Naming anxious or avoidant patterns can help, but we refuse to use them as a hall pass. Accountability is the bridge from insight to change.Real talk: sometimes love isn’t enough. If capacity, timelines, or values don’t align, the kinder choice is to stop chasing potential and choose clarity. We explore what calm, chosen love feels like—clear signals, mutual effort, and room to be fully yourself—and why safety isn’t boring; it’s the soil where connection grows. Along the way we tackle the “if they wanted to, they would” mantra with nuance, emphasizing patterns over promises. The goal isn’t to want less; it’s to want the right kind of love and to pick situations that match it.If Valentine’s Day stung, treat it as data, not defeat. Share this with someone who needs the reminder that care without consistency is not the same as love. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what pattern are you ready to stop chasing?You can now send us a text to ask a question or review the show. We would love to hear from you! Support the showFollow me on social: https://www.instagram.com/babbles_nonsense/

Babbling About Needing a Break

#210: We’re taking a break this week with everything going on in the world—it’s heavy, and it’s draining. But we’ll be back next week with more babbling.If you’re the praying type, I ask you to pause and say a prayer for my good friend Brittany at The Skin Refinery in Fayetteville, Tennessee. Her shop caught fire this past weekend, and it’s absolutely devastating, but I know, without a doubt, she’s going to come back stronger than ever.Until next time, guys… bye. 🤍You can now send us a text to ask a question or review the show. We would love to hear from you! Support the showFollow me on social: https://www.instagram.com/babbles_nonsense/

Babbling About Storms We Pretend Not To See

#209: What if the simplest test for justice is the one we avoid most: did the punishment fit the alleged crime? We take a hard, human look at the Minneapolis ICE shootings and the narratives that sprang up around them, using a nurse’s experience with de‑escalation to question why armed authority is often granted more leeway than caregivers who face chaos daily. In an ER, high stress and long hours never excuse unnecessary force; training, restraint, and accountability are the baseline. If that’s true without a gun, why accept less when the state carries one?Across the conversation, we trace the patterns that blunt our empathy: the impulse to reframe victims through their worst moments, the comfort of silence framed as neutrality, and the churn of headlines that create political whiplash before any change can stick. History offers blunt lessons. The language of “just comply,” “don’t get involved,” and “it’s not my place” has appeared before every time a marginalized group was targeted. Silence doesn’t sit in the middle; it leans toward power.We also talk directly about privilege without shame. If you can look away, you have margin others don’t. Use it. Challenge dehumanizing talk in your circles, center proportionality and human dignity, and keep the focus on the moment where harm happened. We test our shared moral floor with examples most people agree on, then ask for consistency when the state uses force. You don’t need perfect words or a public platform to matter—you need the courage to be specific, to ask better questions, and to let compassion lead even when it’s uncomfortable.If this moved you, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs a thoughtful push, and leave a review telling us how you’ll show up this week. Your voice helps more people choose humanity over comfort.You can now send us a text to ask a question or review the show. We would love to hear from you! PodMatchPodMatch Automatically Matches Ideal Podcast Guests and Hosts For InterviewsSupport the showFollow me on social: https://www.instagram.com/babbles_nonsense/

Babbling About Ice Storms to Ice Shootings

#208: A winter storm might make us think about groceries, generators, and the warmth we take for granted—but the real shock lands when a life is taken on camera. We move from icy roads in the South to a deadly confrontation in Minnesota, where VA nurse Alex Peretti was shot while filming a protest. No music, no fluff, just a careful walk through what’s visible on multiple videos, what the law allows, and what ethics demand when power meets the public.We lay out the confirmed facts: legal concealed carry in a permit-friendly state, a licensed nurse who never drew his weapon, and a rapid escalation that ends with multiple shots fired into someone turned away with a phone in his hand. From there, we bring frontline experience into the conversation—hospital de-escalation training, the cues professionals are taught to read, and the higher standard we expect from officers trained to control risk without lethal force. The goal isn’t to inflame; it’s to clarify. When headlines muddy the picture with “wait for the facts,” we ask which facts actually matter and which talking points are designed to distract.This story doesn’t live in a vacuum. Communities of color have warned about similar encounters for years, often without the visibility that video brings. We connect the dots between policy and character, between what’s legal and what’s right, and between public outrage and the slow work of accountability. If you care about use of force, protest rights, ICE operations, VA standards, and what de-escalation should look like in practice, you’ll find a grounded, human-centered breakdown here.If the momentum after viral tragedies keeps fading, nothing changes. Listen, reflect, and bring your voice to the table. Subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it, and leave a review with one action you’ll take to keep accountability alive.You can now send us a text to ask a question or review the show. We would love to hear from you! PodMatchPodMatch Automatically Matches Ideal Podcast Guests and Hosts For InterviewsSupport the showFollow me on social: https://www.instagram.com/babbles_nonsense/