Elder My City, with Tim Schmoyer

Your Wife Already Knows

Your wife sees what you don't. She watches how you handle stress, how you show up (or don't) for your kids, and the tone you use when you think no one's listening. She has a front row seat to the man you actually are, not just the man you're trying to become. In this episode, we unpack three questions I'm starting to ask Dana on our Monday night dates: What do you need from me? (The leadership gap) Where have you seen me grow? (The formation check) What's the one thing I should focus on next? (The mission) These aren't easy conversations. But if I'm serious about 1 Timothy 3, that managing our household well is the proving ground for greater responsibility, then my wife is the most qualified person to help me see where I'm growing and where I'm still falling short. Paul says an elder must manage his own household well before he can care for God's church. That means we don't get to skip past marriage to the "important work." Marriage IS the work. Every hard conversation is training for something bigger. Read the full post and comment here: https://read.timschmoyer.com/p/your-wife-already-knows CHAPTERS 00:00 - Introduction 00:33 - Why date nights matter 01:30 - "What do you need from me?" — origins in business 03:30 - Your wife has a front row seat to who you actually are 05:30 - Question 1: What do you need from me? (The leadership gap) 08:30 - Question 2: Where have you seen me grow? (The formation check) 10:30 - Question 3: What's the one thing I should focus on next? (The mission) 13:00 - Building a track record your wife can witness 15:00 - Faithful with little → ruler over much (Luke 19, crowns) 17:00 - Adam's passivity vs. what God wants from men 20:00 - Good work brings good reward — closing thoughts Get the free guide, "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework: A Step-by-Step Guide for Godly Leadership," by subscribing to my Substack posts. Totally free. I have nothing to sell you.Questions? Thoughts? Comments? Leave me a voicemail message to use in a future podcast episode.Let's Connect:InstagramFacebookLinkedInX.com

Passive Men Don't Get Entrusted With Cities

Most men make decisions by asking, "What's the smartest choice?" But what if your decisions aren't just problems to solve, they're training for something you haven't been shown yet?In this episode, I walk through three real decisions I'm facing right now — an investment property, relationship priorities for a family of nine, and whether to compete in a BJJ tournament against my doctor's advice — and why I stopped treating them as problems and started treating them as formation.I break down the difference between how most men approach decisions and how an aspiring elder thinks about them, and I introduce a framework I've been developing that changes not just what you decide, but what your decisions are actually for.If you want the full six-question framework, subscribe to Elder My City at read.timschmoyer.com and you'll get "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework" guide in your welcome email.✉️ Subscribe to get my free guide, "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework: A Step-By-Step Guide for Godly Leadership."📝 Read ⁠⁠the full post for this episode⁠⁠ and leave a comment on my Substack.🎙️ Leave ⁠⁠a voicemail for a future episode⁠⁠.CHAPTERS00:00 - Welcome & The Challenge of Decision Making01:00 - Example 1: Investment Property Decision03:25 - Example 2: Family Time & Relationships04:53 - Example 3: BJJ Tournament vs Doctor's Advice05:30 - How Most Men Make Decisions06:36 - A Different Operating System for God-Fearing Men08:49 - The Elder's Questions vs Common Questions12:16 - Decisions as Training for Kingdom Responsibility15:19 - Applying the Framework to Real Decisions17:33 - The Elder's Decision Making Framework (Free Guide)19:40 - Being More Than a "Good Dad"21:15 - Closing & Call to Action Get the free guide, "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework: A Step-by-Step Guide for Godly Leadership," by subscribing to my Substack posts. Totally free. I have nothing to sell you.Questions? Thoughts? Comments? Leave me a voicemail message to use in a future podcast episode.Let's Connect:InstagramFacebookLinkedInX.com

The 5 Weekly Habits of Men Who Lead Like Elders

A jacked 23-year-old put me in a chokehold last Friday. I'm 45. Most people call Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu a hobby. I've started seeing it as elder training.Eldership isn't formed in a seminary classroom or a church board meeting. It's formed in the ordinary rhythms you refuse to quit — the budget meetings, the bedtime Bible readings, the conversations with your kids you'd rather avoid.In this episode, I walk through five weekly habits that are shaping me as I steward my home today and prepare for the authority I'll be trusted with in the Kingdom to come. These aren't theoretical. They're what my family actually does, including the parts I'm still figuring out.If you're a man who senses God is calling you to more than just "being a good dad," this is where that journey gets practical.📝 Read ⁠the full post for this episode⁠ and leave a comment on my Substack.🎙️ Leave ⁠a voicemail for a future episode⁠.CHAPTERS00:00 — Introduction00:46 — A 23-year-old put me in a chokehold02:10 — Eldership is formed in rhythms you refuse to quit03:34 — Passivity is the greatest disqualifier05:12 — Five weekly habits for elder formation05:54 — Habit 1: Lead your family in reading the Bible together10:05 — Habit 2: Have a weekly check-in with each person in your home14:25 — Habit 3: Study scripture with other men17:18 — Habit 4: Hold a budget and calendar review meeting21:53 — Habit 5: Exercise as body stewardship26:18 — Lead what's been entrusted to you27:40 — Set your hope on what's coming Get the free guide, "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework: A Step-by-Step Guide for Godly Leadership," by subscribing to my Substack posts. Totally free. I have nothing to sell you.Questions? Thoughts? Comments? Leave me a voicemail message to use in a future podcast episode.Let's Connect:InstagramFacebookLinkedInX.com

Heaven isn't clouds. It's a Kingdom with cities.

Most Christian men have a fuzzier picture of the Kingdom than they do of their next vacation. Clouds. Harps. Maybe endless singing. But Jesus talked about the Kingdom over 100 times and what He described looks nothing like that.The prophets describe cities. Governance. Land and property. Work that actually lasts. And Revelation says we'll reign forever. Not floating around with equal status, but actually reigning. With varying levels of responsibility based on something that happens now.In this episode, I dig into what Scripture actually says about the age to come and why your daily grind as a father and husband might be training for something far bigger than you realized.📝 Read the full post for this episode and leave a comment on my Substack.🎙️ Leave a voicemail for a future episode.CHAPTERS00:00 Welcome00:55 What I used to think heaven was02:26 The Kingdom is a real place06:27 Micah 4: A Kingdom you can walk through10:21 Zechariah 14: My favorite chapter in the Bible12:44 Why Sukkot is our family's favorite holiday16:47 Revelation: The New Jerusalem18:25 The city has a government19:22 Jesus talked about this 80+ times19:59 The parables of stewardship22:35 What this changes about today24:58 The Lord's Prayer trains us to long for it28:15 A fuzzy heaven doesn't motivate sacrifice30:07 Isaiah 65: Work that finally lasts32:55 Our Sukkot tradition with Hebrews 1134:00 What are you doing with your training?37:05 Closing Get the free guide, "The Elder's Decision-Making Framework: A Step-by-Step Guide for Godly Leadership," by subscribing to my Substack posts. Totally free. I have nothing to sell you.Questions? Thoughts? Comments? Leave me a voicemail message to use in a future podcast episode.Let's Connect:InstagramFacebookLinkedInX.com

I Found My Job Description in Scripture

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