Unf*ck Your Relationships

Episode 240: Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy needs and unhealthy needs in love. Most couples aren’t fighting about the dishes or the sex or the late nights at work, they’re fighting to feel respected, safe, valued, and prioritised. We’re talking about respect, emotional safety, consistency, accountability, affection, and repair and how those differ from control, reassurance-testing, avoidance, mind-reading, and over-functioning. Having needs doesn’t make you needy, it makes you human. But when you don’t understand your needs or you try to meet them through fear and control, intimacy starts to erode.If you listen and realise you’ve been fighting about symptoms instead of the real issue underneath, good. That’s not failure, that’s awareness. When you can separate healthy needs from anxious coping, you stop weaponising love and start building something secure.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 239: 11 Ways Low Self-Esteem Ruins Relationships

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down 11 ways low self-esteem quietly sabotages intimacy. It doesn’t just look like insecurity, it hides behind being chill, low-maintenance, and “the bigger person.” If you’re smart, self-aware, and still stuck in the same patterns, this one will be a mirror.We’re talking about conflict avoidance, over-giving, suppressing needs, reassurance-seeking, jealousy, withdrawing, and staying too long in unhealthy dynamics. Low self-esteem doesn’t just affect how you feel about yourself, it shapes how you show up in love. If you listen and think, “F*ck… this is me,” take that as information, not shame. Nothing is wrong with you, but your self-concept may be running the show and until that changes, your relationships won’t. WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 238: 9 Ways Anxious Attachment Is Sabotaging Your Relationship (And You’re Letting It)

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships I’m breaking down nine ways anxious attachment quietly sabotages intimacy, even when you’re self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and “doing the work.” This episode is for the woman who knows she’s anxious, she’s read the books, can articulate her wounds and understands her triggers. But her relationships still end the same way. This isn’t about understanding yourself better, it’s about taking responsibility for how you show up in you relationships.We’re looking at the behaviours that feel justified, loving, and understandable… but are actually pushing connection away underneath the surface. Because awareness without responsibility doesn’t change anything. It just gives you better language to explain the same patterns. If you’re ready to stop explaining your patterns and start changing them, this episode will shift somethingWORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 237: How to Grow From a Girl to a WOMAN

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships I break down the pattern I see in so many smart, capable women who look like they have their life together on the outside, but keep self-sabotaging in love, money, habits, and commitment. We’re talking about the psychology of the eternal girl and why staying in potential feels safer than choosing realityI unpack how this shows up in your day-to-day life: inconsistency, avoidance, fantasy-based dating, fear of commitment, money sabotage, weak boundaries, and the addiction to beginnings. I’ll tell you why responsibility isn’t punishment, it’s the doorway to self-respect and emotional maturityThis episode is about shifting from “almost” into embodiment, moving from girlhood patterns of avoidance, people pleasing, and waiting to be chosen, into grounded woman energy rooted in self-leadership, standards, follow-through, and nervous system safety. If you’re ready to stop rehearsing your life and actually live it, this one is your wake-up call.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Episode 236: The Beginner’s Guide to Shadow Work

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I break down what shadow work actually is, why so many self-aware women still feel stuck after years of healing, and how hidden parts of you quietly run your relationships, boundaries, and self-worth.Shadow work isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about understanding the parts of you that learned to people please, shut down, over-explain, or self-abandon to feel safe. I explain that these patterns weren’t random, they were survival strategies formed when love or safety felt conditional. This is why behaviour is never the real issue, triggers point to the core wound underneath, and insight alone isn’t enough to create change.This episode is about moving from managing your patterns to leading yourself, by building awareness, nervous system safety, and embodied action, so you’re no longer run by old fears of rejection or abandonment, and can show up in relationships from self-connection, safety, and confidence.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com