The Lemon Tree Coaching

Bonus Episode - Timeline Grief: Mourning the Love You Thought You'd Have by Now

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.In this short bonus episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele names a kind of grief that often goes unspoken: the grief of the love you thought you’d have by now.Not the loss of a specific person, but the loss of a timeline. A season. A future you carried quietly alongside your growth, healing, and becoming. This episode gently explores what it means to mourn an imagined life without turning that grief into self-blame, failure, or doubt about your worth.If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, I’m ready… so why hasn’t it happened yet? -this episode offers permission to grieve without rushing to fix, reframe, or explain the ache away. Because grief doesn’t need logic. It needs acknowledgment.This is an episode for anyone holding both hope and sadness at once, for those learning that love is not a reward for doing everything “right,” and for the version of you who is still waiting, and still believing. 

# 151 - The Sorrow of Music’s Touch

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.When that one song comes on that destroys your soul in a way that can’t be explained . . . Have you ever been going about your day when a song suddenly comes on and unravels you in seconds? Your throat tightens, your chest aches, and before you know it, you’re standing inside a memory you didn’t plan to visit.In this tender episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores the psychology behind why certain songs carry such profound emotional weight. We talk about how music bypasses logic and moves straight into the emotional brain, why sorrow can surface before the mind has words, and how songs become emotional time capsules for love, loss, longing, and meaning.This episode is not about fixing your feelings or “getting over it.” It’s about understanding why music touches something so deep, why sorrow is not the same as sadness, and how these moments reveal the depth of what once mattered. If you’ve ever felt quietly undone by a song you can’t explain, this episode is an invitation to listen gently, and let meaning unfold.Mental Health Note:If this episode brings up heavy emotions, support is available. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. If you’re outside the U.S., please seek local crisis or mental health resources. This podcast is for educational and emotional support purposes and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.Be gentle with what still aches . . . and let that song play.

Bonus Episode: Afraid You’ll Never Meet Someone Who Can Swim in Your Depths?

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.What if the fear isn’t that you’ll never meet someone like them again, but that you’ll never be met at that depth again?In this short bonus episode, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores the tender fear that often follows deep connection: the worry that the person who once recognized your complexity, emotional range, and inner world was a once-in-a-lifetime encounter. Together, we gently reframe that fear - separating depth from scarcity, intensity from safety, and recognition from true capacity.This episode is a soft pause for anyone grieving not just a person, but the feeling of being deeply seen. A reminder that depth is not something another person gives you - it’s something they notice. And that sustainable connection isn’t about someone who can dive into your waters, but someone who can breathe there.This is a reflection on emotional intimacy, nervous system safety, and trusting yourself to wait for alignment and not settle for short-lived instant gratification.

# 150: Top Gun - Psychology, Identity & the Nervous System

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.In this episode of The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast, Dr. Allison Sucamele unpacks Top Gun as more than an adrenaline classic - it’s a psychological portrait of identity foreclosure, attachment wounds, grief, and a nervous system that learned intensity = safety. We explore Maverick’s drive to be exceptional as a survival strategy, the Iceman dynamic as competing regulation styles, and Goose’s death as the moment the “performance self” collapses into trauma grief, shame, and survivor’s guilt. Through attachment theory and polyvagal theory, we ask the deeper question: Is it love, or is it activation? and What are you chasing… and what are you running from?Follow along on Instagram: @thelemontreecoaching Film page (Top Gun, Paramount - 1986)Gentle note: This episode is educational/coaching content and not a substitute for therapy. If you’re in the U.S. and need immediate support, you can call/text/chat 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline).

Bonus Episode: The Art of Starting Over - Again

Ask The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast a Question. Text the TLT Pod today.Sometimes the bravest thing we do isn’t starting over…It’s starting over again.In today’s five-minute bonus episode, Dr. Allison Sucamele offers a gentle guided meditation for anyone in a season of rebuilding, recalibrating, or beginning again - not because you failed, but because your life is calling you back to honesty.This is a quiet place to land if you’re tired, tender, and still willing to try.Together, we explore:why resilience is a process, not a personality traithow perfectionism often shows up as protectionwhy renewal isn’t an interruption -  it’s a cycleand a simple 3-breath ritual to help you release, forgive, and begin again gentlyIf you’ve been carrying pressure to “do it right this time,” let this episode remind you: growth is allowed to be messy… and you are allowed to be human.Resources Mentioned / Related Listening & Reading📚 BooksThe Gifts of Imperfection — Brené BrownSelf-Compassion — Dr. Kristin NeffMindset — Dr. Carol DweckAtomic Habits — James Clear (for gentle rebuilding, identity-based change)🧠 Psychology & Nervous SystemPolyvagal Theory work — Dr. Stephen PorgesAnchored — Deb Dana (nervous system regulation + safety cues)🎧 Supportive PracticesBreathwork for grounding + regulation“Rupture and repair” reflection: Where can I return to myself with gentleness?Gentle DisclaimerThis podcast is for educational and supportive purposes and is not a substitute for mental health treatment. If you are struggling or in crisis, please contact your local emergency services. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline).