No Such Thing as Normal

Why ADHD still feels so hard - even when you understand it

ADHD is being talked about more than ever. But for many, life still feels harder than it should. Even with a diagnosis there can be a lingering sense of “Why is life still so difficult?” In this episode, Sonia speaks with ADHD coach Alex Campbell, to find out what we’re missing. Alex says ADHD brains are motivated by interest, not importance. But the world expects the opposite, and that’s the where issues arise. People often develop hidden systems to try to meet life’s demands - hypervigilance, hyper-independence and a harsh inner-critic. But these come at a cost. Their are high rates of burnout and exhaustion for those with ADHD. This conversation explores a different way forward: understanding how your brain works, and learning how to work with it, rather than constantly pushing against it. In this episode: How interest acts as the fuel for focus and executive function Why simple tasks can feel disproportionately hard to start How the brain creates stimulation when things feel boring Negative interest: why anxiety and urgency often become the default fuel The hidden coping systems (hypervigilance, masking, hyper-independence) The role of the inner critic The long-term cost: exhaustion, stress and burnout Internal vs external hyperactivity. ADHD and emotional intensity Spiky strengths: brilliant in some areas, challenged in others Practical ways to begin working with your ADHD brain, rather than against it The value of connection Identifying strengths, and using them to get activated Guest: Alex Campbell ADHD CoachAlex’s book ADHD… Now What? Is available here. Resources: VIA Character StrengthsADHD NZ No Such Thing as Normal is made with the support of NZ On AirSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Strengths-based education (part 2) - what happens when we build around strengths?

In this episode, Sonia Gray speaks with 12-year-old Benjamin, whose extraordinary creativity sits alongside the challenges of dyslexia. His mother, Gretchen, reflects on the hidden effort behind his learning, and what changed when his strengths were recognised and understood. Dyslexia advocate Dean Bragonier returns, making the case that strengths-based education is not just better for individuals, but for society. He argues that when we fail to recognise neurodivergent strengths, we fail to realise that potential, along with the innovation and creativity that come with it. The Hyphen Project in Auckland offers a different model of learning for gifted and neurodivergent teenagers who have struggled in mainstream education. For 17-year-old Travis, who has ADHD, that shift has been life-changing. A talented digital artist, Travis couldn’t find his place in the traditional school system. He arrived at Hyphen in a mental health crisis — and found an environment that worked with his brain, not against it. In this episode: Strengths-based education in practice at The Hyphen Project ADHD, dyslexia and “spiky” learning profiles Why many neurodivergent students disengage from school The link between anxiety, mental health and learning The role of belonging in re-engaging young people How motivation changes when learning is built around strengths Real-world pathways for creative and neurodivergent thinkers The “opportunity cost” of overlooked potential This is a continuation of the previous episode, Strengths-based education: Unlocking the gifts, which explores how identifying strengths early can transform a child’s experience of learning. Guests: Dean Bragonier Noticeability Benjamin Gretchen Holly Gooch The Hyphen Project Travis Resources: Dyslexia Foundation NZ No Such Thing as Normal is made with the support of NZ On AirSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Strengths-based education (Part 1): Unlocking the gifts

For many dyslexic children, school is where self-doubt begins. Literacy and numeracy sit at the centre of how ability is measured, so it doesn’t take long for kids who struggle in these areas to absorb the message that something is wrong with them. And this extends beyond dyslexia. Many neurodivergent learners - including those with ADHD and autism - have strengths that sit outside the narrow skills schools traditionally measure. Ensuring all kids learn to read and write is important, and many will need targeted support. But are we missing something vital in this process? Should the same emphasis be placed on the unique gifts of those with learning difficulties? Dean Bragonier is an international dyslexia advocate and founder of non-profit organisation NoticeAbility. He held a series of workshops in New Zealand, designed to help dyslexic students recognise their cognitive strengths. In this episode, Sonia speaks to Dean, and from some of the children who took part in the workshops here. This conversation focuses on dyslexia, but the idea reaches far beyond it. When young people discover their strengths, the story they tell about themselves can begin to change. In this episode you’ll hear: Why many dyslexic students internalise the belief that they’re “not smart”. How the changing nature of the workplace may favour neurodivergent strengths. Why a negative self-perception created in school can have lifelong effects. Advice for parents of dyslexic learners. Why learning ‘the basics’ is hard for non-linear learners. This is Part 1 of a two-part focus on Strengths-based education. Guests: Dean Bragonier NoticeAbility Ella Deanna Emily Resources: Dyslexia Foundation NZ TED X: The True Gifts of a Dyslexic Mind | Dean Bragonier See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sensory overload: What your child is trying to tell you

Parenting a child with ADHD, autism, Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD), Pervasive Demand Avoidance (PDA) or sensory challenges can feel unpredictable. One day everything is fine. The next day it isn’t. Food they ate yesterday is suddenly rejected. A fun outing becomes overwhelming. And sometimes it all ends in a meltdown. Perhaps your child doesn’t have a diagnosis, but it’s clear they’re not coping. And neither are you. In this episode, Sonia Gray speaks with sensory integration practitioner Elen Nathan about what’s going on in these moments. And why the answers parents often look for may not be the ones that help most. This conversation explores a powerful shift in how challenging behaviour is understood. Regardless of a child’s specific diagnosis or neurotype, their nervous system may be trying to tell us something important. So what actually helps when nothing seems to be working? Elen says: “It all boils down to a sense of safety.” In this episode we explore: What to do when your child isn’t coping Why behaviour can change from one day to the next What you can do while waiting for a diagnosis Why meltdowns are often misunderstood The shift in how experts think about behaviour and sensory processing How to deal with the judgement of others If you’re parenting a child who isn’t coping right now, this conversation may offer some insight. Guest: Elen Nathan The Playful Place No Such Thing as Normal is made with support from NZ On AirSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

ADHD medication - Is is safe? Is it effective? 

ADHD stimulant medication use is rising in New Zealand, but questions about safety and side effects remain - as does the stigma surrounding these meds. In the first episode of Season three, Sonia Gray explores what ADHD medication actually does - and what it doesn’t. You’ll hear 11-year-old Tilly take her morning pill and describe, in real time, how it changes the way she feels. Sonia also speaks with Professor Dave Coghill about how stimulant medication works. Dave addresses some common concerns around safety and effectiveness, and explains what a comprehensive medication trial should involve. Medication isn’t the only treatment for ADHD. But for many, it can be life-changing. Note: This episode is for educational purposes only and does not replace personalised medical advice. Always consult a qualified health professional about treatment decisions. Guests: Professor Dave CoghillTilly and BexResources: ADHD NZNo Such Thing as Normal is made with support from NZ On AirSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.