Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships

Ep 57: Chemistry With Someone New: When Connection Threatens Stability 🧪💥🫦

In this episode, we face our biggest test yet: what happens when chemistry with someone new starts to shake the foundation of everything we’ve built? ⚡💔In this brutally honest episode (edit: don't worry guys, we're fine!), Anna opens up about her fears around a woman who may be crossing boundaries, while Aiden finds himself fumbling through coffee dates, phone calls, and the emotional tightrope of trying to stay connected to everyone involved in this unfolding dynamic. What starts as an opportunity for Aiden (at last!) quickly turns into something much more complicated. ☕📱🫦We dive into the hard questions:Are we accidentally drifting toward polyamory? 🤯How do you handle jealousy without turning into the relationship police? 🚨When does attraction stop being exciting and start feeling like a threat? 🔥➡️😬In attempt to understand, we dive in to the poly books (spoiler: we’re still not poly), talk about why rigid rules often lead to secrecy, and get painfully real about what comes up when freedom and fear collide. 📚💭Topics include: radical honesty vs. emotional protection, swinging vs. polyamory, codependence vs. healthy interdependence, and how to voice insecurity without controlling your partner. 🧠❤️‍🩹This episode is messy, vulnerable, and deeply human… a front-row seat to what happens when someone new becomes a potential game changer. 🎙️💥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! annaaiden@gmx.comHacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep 56: Motel 6 or Four Seasons? 🏨💬 Playing Separately, Setting Boundaries & Getting Real About Jealousy

This one’s all about the little details that really matter—like where your partner has sex with someone else. 😂 In this episode, we dive deep into the surprisingly emotional conversation about location preferences for separate play (yes, we’re debating Motel 6 vs. a romantic yurt vs our own homes), and how these seemingly small choices can stir up big feelings around fairness, privacy, control, and intimacy.We also give a sweet update on our Hacking Nicaragua retreat crew—and how the three amazing couples are thriving months later with more connection, better sex, and healthier habits. And finally, we read through all your recent reviews—including the ones that made us laugh, cringe, and cheer—and share our honest (and sometimes sassy) reactions. Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or just figuring out your own rules, this one is full of real talk, inside jokes, and the kind of conversations that keep a relationship evolving. ❤️🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! annaaiden@gmx.comHacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep 55: Our Relationship Constitution 📝❤️ & A Very Sexy NYE 🎉💦

After weeks of messy feelings, deep dives, and sexting slip-ups, we finally sat down to co-create our Relationship Constitution—or at least, what we think we want it to be (for now!). From rules around emotional support and separate play to a surprising agreement about one last solo date with Jasmine for Aiden, we get real about what safety, fairness, and connection look like in an open marriage.We also spill the juicy details from our wild New Year’s Eve party—including a successful Trimix comeback (no ER visits this time!).✨ Whether you're figuring out your own boundaries or just here for the voyeurism, this episode is packed with big feels, honest renegotiations, and a whole lot of sexy fun.We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! annaaiden@gmx.comHacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering Control

Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering ControlWhat happens when Anna’s working through her own insecurities and growing pains--but still wants to give Aiden the green light to connect and date separately? In this episode, we open up about our processing after Aiden’s solo coffee meetup with Jasmine—and the unexpected emotional fallout it triggered.From guilt and arousal to fear and freedom, we walk through the intimate conversations that led us to a big new step: taking the governor off our texts with others. That’s right—flirty, sexy, transparent one-on-one texting is officially on the table (for both of us), and we’re seeing what it stirs up.We explore what it means to support your partner’s desires even when they scare you, why transparency matters more than ever, and how arousal and anxiety can surprisingly coexist in open relationships. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance eroticism with emotional safety—or just want a peek into how couples actually navigate these moments—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 💌🔥We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! annaaiden@gmx.comHacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep. 53: PART 2 — Trust the Bond (Part 2 with Coach Chloe Prent)

**NOTE We recommend listening to Ep 52 first! This is the second part of that episode.**This one’s raw, real, and healing. 💔💬 In Part 2 of our session with relationship coach Chloe, we go deep into the emotional fallout from a separate play experience gone wrong: a broken condom agreement, a breach of trust, and the lingering ache of unspoken fears. Anna confronts her body’s visceral “no” while Aiden fights to be believed. We share the tools Chloe gave us to move forward—from how to feel the ick without letting it run the show to how to rebuild trust when our gut screams otherwise.If you've ever struggled with trust, jealousy, or feeling safe after something goes sideways, this episode is for you. We’re not sugarcoating anything—there are apologies, hard truths, and even a little laughter. We also dive into how we’re rewriting our “relationship constitution” to define what privacy, honesty, and emotional safety mean for us now. ❤️‍🔥 You’ll walk away with tools and insights to navigate your own love, open or not.Contact Relationship Coach Chloe Prentoulis at www.swoon.coachEmail: chloe@swoon.coach Phone 949-482-2464We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! annaaiden@gmx.comHacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast