We Didn't Turn Out OK with Jennie Monness

49: Sister Episode

In this episode, I sit down with my sisters for what started as a “get to know us” conversation, and quickly turned into something much deeper. At some point, we forgot we were recording and simply began reminiscing. It felt like therapy. It felt grounding. And it felt especially meaningful during a time when we’re navigating some of the hardest things we’ve faced together. What kept coming back to us was this: getting through life together has always been our anchor. We reflect on our childhood and the sisterhood we share, one that, surprisingly, was never rooted in competition or jealousy. We don’t remember being at odds (aside from a few scratch marks from toddler toy disputes). As a mom of two young girls close in age, currently deep in the trenches of sibling rivalry, I found myself wondering how our experience was so different… and what, if anything, I can learn from it. Listening back to this episode, what moves me most are the moments you can’t fully hear: the quiet looks, the tears, the shared smiles. Those nuances are what hold this conversation together. I hope this episode gives you a glimpse into my upbringing, the shaping experience of being the middle of two sisters, and the quiet magic that sibling relationships, especially sisterhood, can hold. You’ll also meet my sisters: Katy Leinoff, my younger sister, is a collage artist living in Florida with her husband and their 3-year-old daughter. She’s currently seven months pregnant with her second child. Lindsey Lamchick, my older sister, is a real estate agent, title owner, and the founder of Project Disco Ball, a nonprofit inspired by her journey through breast cancer. She lives in Florida with her husband, their 16-year-old twins, and their 6-year-old daughter. There will be more sister episodes in the future, I’m already sort of hoping I can create a spin off podcast for the three of us to have regular sessions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

47: The Psychology of Sleepaway Camp (for Kids and Parents) with Eva Heyman and Caroline Leventhal

This week I’m joined by the hilarious, honest NYC moms behind the podcast Mic’d & Medicated, Eva Heyman and Caroline Leventhal, in what starts as a conversation about sleepaway camp turns into something much deeper (and very funny). Sleepaway camp might sound niche, but it’s a topic I get asked about constantly ever since I started sharing about how we were looking at camp for Tess this upcoming summer (I can’t believe she’s leaving us so soon!). I get questions  from parents all over the world. Why do we send our kids away for the summer? Who is it really for? Our kids? Us? Both? We unpack the phenomenon behind camp and all the questions that come with it: – What age is “right”? – Co-ed or single gender? – How long is too long? – Is camp about independence, identity, resilience… or parents needing space to breathe? – And how much of our own childhood experiences shape the decision? We also go inward, sharing whether we went to camp ourselves, the experiences that stayed with us (good and hard), and how those memories quietly inform the choices we’re making now as parents. For me, camp was the first place I truly felt like I belonged. It shaped who I became, gave me lifelong friendships, and remains one of the most formative chapters of my life. That belief deeply influenced the schools I chose for my daughters and the camps we explored together. This episode is real, reflective, laugh-out-loud funny, and full of nuance. It’s a conversation about sleepaway camp not just as a parenting decision but as a decision about giving your child an experience where they discover who they are, who they can be without us and what it feels like to truly belong.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

46: Blending not Balancing with Jenny Fleiss

Today’s conversation with Jenny Fleiss is one that stayed with me long after we stopped recording. You may know Jenny as the co-founder behind major ventures like Rent the Runway and Jetblack, or recently from Roll Rider, the kids’ luggage company she dreamed up with her children. She’s also been recognized with awards such as Inc.’s 30 Under 30, Fortune’s 40 Under 40, and Most Powerful Women Entrepreneurs — but what we explore in this episode is the part of her story that accolades don’t capture. We dive into the inner work of adulthood and parenting: the moments when we realize we’re not validating what matters to our kids, even though we’ve spent our whole lives wishing others would validate what matters to us. We talk about how this work doesn’t necessarily get easier, but it becomes clearer… and how awareness is often the biggest shift of all. Jenny shares why she doesn’t believe in the word balance — and why blend is the more honest, compassionate way to approach working motherhood. We talk about what happens when we include our kids in the worlds we’re building, how it softens us, surprises us, and reveals the parts of ourselves still in need of slowing down, rewiring, or healing. It’s a warm, honest, deeply human conversation about ambition, presence, stress, creativity, and raising kids while still raising ourselves. Discount for listeners: Get 20% off Jenny’s kids’ luggage scooter company Roll Rider with code RollOK. This one is just SO GOOD. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

45: Hear it from my girls

This was the most I have learned from any guest so far. It was a 45 minute episode cut down to 12 minutes because of how moving this entire conversation was I felt compelled to keep the majority of it private. What I left in, I hope helps give you ideas for questions you can ask your own kids, letting them know you are curious about what they think and that it sparks conversations like the one I had here. I was able to hear some of their innermost thoughts and what I am sharing here I hope puts perspective on how their minds work, they want magic, they want presence, they want us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

44: Mind Shifting with Jamie Graber

This episode is all about rewiring ourselves. In this episode, I sit down with mind shifter and meditation coach Jamie Graber for the meditation conversation I’ve always wanted but never heard: a true back-to-basics, “start at square one” guide to what meditation actually is and how it rewires us as parents and people. I have always wanted someone to talk to me about meditation in the most basic, approachable way. She breaks it down and explains how the practice of meditation reshapes the nervous system, helps us see our thoughts instead of being ruled by them, and softens our reflexive thoughts and reactions (this is especially in motherhood when we find ourselves triggered or reactive to things we aren’t even aware of).  We each share our own before/after moments, including how meditation gave us perspective on the stories running in the background of our minds. If you’re curious about meditation but feel intimidated or confused - or if you’re like me, skeptical - then this is your starting point. You can also be guided by Jamie through her app Shift with Jamie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices