Sex With Emily

The Truth About Hookup Culture Nobody Tells You

Casual sex gets a bad reputation — but most of that reputation comes from doing it wrong. When it's rushed, unspoken, or emotionally misaligned, it can leave you feeling used, confused, or chasing someone who was never on the same page. But when you approach it with self-awareness and a willingness to actually say what you want, it can be exactly what you need. In this episode, I'm breaking down what conscious casual sex actually looks like — the different forms it can take, how to know if it's right for you right now, and the two things that separate a genuinely satisfying hookup from one that sends you into a shame spiral. In this episode, you'll learn: • The real difference between casual sex and hookup culture — and why "casual" doesn't have to mean disposable, careless, or emotionally disconnected • How to know if casual sex is actually a good fit for you right now, including the one attachment pattern that almost always makes it backfire • What to say before, during, and after a casual encounter to make sure your needs actually get met — and how to navigate hooking up within a friend group without blowing everything up More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - What Makes Casual Sex Satisfying? 1:43 - Defining Casual Sex (It's Not Just Hookup Culture) 3:59 - Surprising Research: Casual Sex Trends by Generation 5:44 - The Benefits of Casual Sex 8:23 - The Downsides & Risks to Know 10:37 - How to Know If Casual Sex Is Right for You 12:20 - How to Find & Communicate With Casual Partners 17:51 - Best Casual Sex Advice From Dr. Emily's Audience 20:12 - Listener Q&A: Orgasming Through Oral Sex 23:46 - Listener Q&A: Casual Sex After a Long-Term Relationship 27:06 - Listener Q&A: Shame & Regret After a Hookup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Your Fantasies Are Sexually Healthy

If you've ever felt ashamed of a sexual fantasy, I want you to know that having one isn't a sign that something is wrong with you — it's actually a sign of a healthy sex life. Fantasies can reveal what you truly crave, deepen your connection with a partner, and completely transform your relationship with your own desire. But most of us were never taught how to think about them, let alone talk about them out loud. In this episode, I'm breaking down what your fantasies actually mean, why you don't need to act on all of them, and exactly how to bring one up with a partner without it feeling terrifying. In this episode, you'll learn: • What the most common fantasies reveal about your psychological needs — and why the ones that embarrass you the most are usually the most telling • My step-by-step framework for communicating a fantasy to a partner (even if you've never done it before and have no idea where to start) • What to do if you can't seem to fantasize at all — including why a history of trauma or a conservative upbringing can shut down your erotic imagination, and how to gently rebuild it More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:47 - The Most Common Fantasies (Group Sex, BDSM, Voyeurism & More) 3:50 - Listener Fantasy List: What YOU Shared on Instagram 6:12 - How to Bring Up a Fantasy to Your Partner (The Who, What, Where, When, Why Method) 8:24 - Fantasy vs. Fetish: What's the Difference? 9:09 - Caller Update: Tracy's Throuple Story 15:44 - "Is It Wrong to Fantasize About Someone Else While in a Relationship?" 17:33 - How to Find a Couple for a Threesome 20:32 - Latex Fetish & Pegging: How to Get Your Partner on Board 24:12 - How to Make the First Move Without Falling into the Friend Zone 28:26 - Foot Fetishes 101: How to Blow His Mind 31:03 - When Trauma Blocks Your Fantasy Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Have Sex While On Antidepressants

If you're on antidepressants and your sex drive has completely disappeared, I want you to know that you're not broken, and you don't have to choose between feeling mentally well and having a fulfilling sex life. SSRIs like Lexapro, Zoloft, and Prozac are genuinely life-changing for so many people, but nobody warns you that they can tank your desire, make orgasms nearly impossible, and quietly wreck your relationship in the process. In this episode, I'm breaking down exactly why this happens, and more importantly, what you can actually do about it. From simple timing hacks to alternative treatments that are showing real promise. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why SSRIs suppress desire and arousal on a hormonal level — and the one hack that can reduce side effects as soon as tonight • How to rebuild your sex drive when both you and your partner are medicated (yes, this is more common than you think) • The alternative treatments — TMS therapy, ketamine, and psilocybin — that are helping people get off antidepressants entirely More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 0:31 - Sarah's Story: The SSRI Sex Drive Dilemma 3:50 - Why SSRIs Kill Your Libido (The Science) 6:50 - How Common Is This? Depression & Sex Stats 14:00 - Side Effects Breakdown: Vulva vs. Penis Owners 15:50 - Practical Hacks: Timing, Alcohol & Cannabis 20:53 - Alternative Treatments: TMS, Ketamine & Psychedelics 25:31 - Both Partners on SSRIs? How to Rebuild Intimacy 31:58 - The 36 Questions Study That Reignites Closeness 33:37 - Perimenopause, Hormones & Anti-Depressants at 48 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Beginner's Guide to Anal Pleasure

Solo anal play might be the most misunderstood sex act out there, and I’m done letting shame, myths, and bad porn narratives keep you from one of the most pleasurable things you can do for yourself. Whether you're completely new to anal or just looking for a place to finally start, this episode is your no-judgment, fully practical guide to exploring on your own terms. From the anatomy behind why it actually feels so good (yes, for all genitals) to the exact tools, lube, and prep you need to get started safely, I break it all down with zero shame and a lot of science. Plus, I answer real listener questions about positioning, bringing it up with a partner, and the mess concerns that are quietly keeping most people from ever trying. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why anal stimulation can unlock full-body orgasms for every anatomy — and the nerve science that explains it • The three biggest anal myths (and why they're completely wrong) • Exactly how to prep, what to buy, and how to start — so your first experience is actually pleasurable This Episode is sponsored by LELO SWITCH – https://lelo.to/aGecd (Use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off!) More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Timestamps: 0:00 - Why Try Solo Anal Play? Benefits for All Bodies 2:20 - Prostate Pleasure 101 (Penis Owners) 3:16 - Anal Orgasms & Nerve Endings (Vulva Owners) 5:48 - Body Acceptance & Releasing Shame Around Anal 6:52 - Busting Myth #1: Does Anal Affect Your Sexuality? 8:21 - Busting Myth #2: Anal Requires Preparation, Not Spontaneity 10:41 - How to Start: Anal Training & Finger Exploration 11:51 - Toy Recommendations by Anatomy 16:06 - Lube Guide: Silicone vs. Water-Based 18:05 - Q&A: Your Anal Questions Answered Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why This Is Halle Berry’s Sexiest Chapter Yet

After years of thinking love wasn't in the cards, Golden Globe, Emmy and Academy Award winning actor Halle Berry stopped chasing and that's exactly when everything changed. In this live conversation from Eudemonia, Halle and I get into what it really takes to have a loving connection and  incredible sex in your 50s, why she thought her partner gave her herpes (spoiler: it was perimenopause), and how becoming whole on her own finally attracted the relationship she'd always wanted. From faking multiple orgasms in her 20s to now having no problem telling her partner exactly what she needs, Halle shares why the "zero fucks to give" era might just be the sexiest time of a woman's life. She also opens up about misdiagnosis, advocating for women's health in Washington, and why she's throwing herself a "siesta" party when she officially hits menopause in March. Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!  In this episode, you'll learn:  • Why chasing a relationship kept Halle attracting the wrong partners—and what shifted when she finally prioritized herself  • How vaginal dryness got misdiagnosed as herpes and Sjögren's disease, and what that taught her about the gaps in women's healthcare  • The permission slip every woman needs to stop performing in bed and start asking for what actually feels good More Halle Berry: • Instagram  • Respin by Halle Berry  Eudēmonia Summit: •  Website  More Dr. Emily:  • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply). • Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 00:00 - Chapter Title 00:09 - Halle Berry Admits She Used to Fake Orgasms 02:12 - Love, Divorce, and Lessons After Three Marriages 04:26 - Why She Slept With Men on the First Night 07:03 - The Health Scare That Changed Her Intimacy 07:46 - Being Misdiagnosed With Herpes 09:11 - Realizing She Was in Perimenopause 10:36 - How Sex Changed in Her 50s 13:03 - Why So Many Women Fake It 14:08 - The Unrealistic Sex Standards from Porn 17:08 - Learning You Can Say No to Sex 26:32 - The Truth About Multiple Orgasms 29:31 - Why She Launched Respin 30:50 - The Menopause Healthcare Gap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices