What’s Missing When Skillful Communication Is Just Not Happening - 031

Welcome to the thirty-first episode of Harness Your ADHD Power. I'm so glad you could join me for today’s podcast episode. It’s time for another change to the format. The episodes have been getting a bit long, so I’m moving back to the sweet spot of roughly 30 minutes. That means cutting out some of the repetitive content, in order to keep the episodes focused on great content, stories, action steps and a favorite quote of mine. I appreciate all your suggestions and input so I can consider everything and provide you with the best of me in ways that are best for you too. Just because you can speak, doesn’t mean you can communicate skillfully or say what you intend to convey. Just because you know the words doesn’t mean that you are using them skillfully. Just because you get everything out that you want to say, doesn’t mean it is received as you intended. And, if you have beliefs about not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, then you’ve already set yourself up to not say what’s on your mind because you’ll be focused on censoring yourself; not focused on what you want to convey. Some of the goals for this episode are to provide you with a basic understanding of communication; what it is and is not. What your responsibility is as the communicator. What your responsibility is as the listener. The role boundaries play in communication. How to communicate assertively, skillfully and say what you intend with greater confidence and ease of expression. And of course, there will be some actions steps you can begin to take today.   To help out the show: Leave an honest review on iTunes.  Your ratings and reviews really help and I read each one. Subscribe on iTunes.   Thanks for listening!  Until the next time! Download the Transcript and read through the whole episode, from start to finish. Download the MP3 Audio File and listen to the episode however you like with the audio file.   You'll learn: The importance of really looking for, acknowledging and celebrating your WINS! The impact of ADHD and Executive Function Deficits on skillful communication Communication is a huge part of our lives.  Every relationship depends on it, and it often seems to go wrong, especially when ADHD or EFD are present. Some general tips for skillful communication, which are challenging for those with ADHD or EFD, yet are very important. Improving your speaking skills Improving your listening skills Assertive, not aggressive communication (plus literal & inferential information) A few differences between aggressive and assertive communication Book recommendation:  "Your Perfect Right:  Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships" by Alberti and Emmons Importance of boundaries in providing and receiving communication The purpose of boundaries is to protect something, not to prohibit it Examples of boundaries   I've created many different resources for you.  Here's what's available currently: This podcast show, with Show Notes for each episode The Harness Your ADHD Power Community on Facebook Live videos on my Facebook page, ADDventures in Achievement Ask me your questions for an episode Reach out to me with your thoughts or feedback Quick survey to tell me what you’re struggling with A free video and e-book about getting your ADHD needs met A free tips e-book on decision-making My innovative online program, ADDventures in Achievement. New enrollment opens again on August 15th; so get yourself on the Waitlist now if you want to receive additional information this week to know if this might be right for you.   A Favorite Quote: Jim Rohn said, “If you just communicate, you can get by. But if you communicate skillfully, you can work miracles.” The question I have for you at this point of our journey together is, “Are you ready to upgrade your communication from just okay to skillfully?”