#411: How To Speak Up For Yourself With Confidence

  How to Speak Up for Yourself with Confidence PODCAST #411 You have a voice, it's time to use it. When we don't use our voices, and don't speak up for ourselves or for what is right, the world suffers, as do we. It's time to start speaking with confidence, even if you have never done so before. This podcast episode will hold your hand and then give you the push you need to start speaking up and rising up with confidence. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/411 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we'll be talking about: How we have lost our voice, and the desperate need for it in the worldHow to have a voice and to start using itHow to Speak up to Others (who intimidate you, who manipulate you, who look past you)How to Speak up for Yourself (to yourself, to your past and to your future)  Do you love the show? We've love for you to become an official supporter of The Confidence Podcast by becoming a Patron. We have 17 bonus episodes ready for you to unlock, all for just $5. Go to https://www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast to get started.  Ready to stop caring what people think? Join us for our free online masterclass -we have live sessions this week. Don't you think it's time to be free from being held back because of the stories you tell yourself about what others think of you?  Get your free seat at www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring   REVIEW OF THE WEEK:  Just started listening … wow. Emma aaa This podcast is 11/10. She goes above and beyond in each topic she talks about. I take her advice and run with it in everyday life. Success is ALWAYS guaranteed. Love you, love your word, love the show.    WHY HAVE WE LOST OUR VOICE? Don't let what someone said steal your destiny from you. It's time to stop aligning yourself with what people have said about you and instead identify yourself by what God says about you. (And He says that you have purpose, you are unique, you are his masterpiece, you are his child, you have specific talent, you are loved, and you are never alone.)  Typically, there is a moment in our past that we felt unsafe after using our voice.  -you got made fun of; told that there was something wrong with you -you said something awkward -you didn't have parents or role models who built you up -you heard more prohibitory language than affirmative language in your house -you felt overshadowed by another personality you grew up around -you learned that the people around you weren't listening, so you felt like it didn't matter -you spoke up, but an abuser in your life didn't listen Speaking up and using your voice doesn't feel safe. But it is less safe to stay silent and to sulk in the shadows of life.   What got me started? I knew I had a moral obligation to start speaking up - through writing first, and then speaking. I felt the pull on my soul and in my desire, but it was too hard to do. I was tremendously uncomfortable and resistant with it - the thought filled me with shame.I saw someone else be brave and it inspired me. (after I spent years hiding the book)I wanted to be someone who did brave things, and I knew how much Roth had helped me, I knew I couldn't with good conscious stay silent and "safe" anymore.  Geneen Roth's Book:  Breaking Free From Emotional Eating: https://amzn.to/30iX7QW   HOW TO HAVE A VOICE AND START USING IT You'll feel the itch.  But you'll question your right to itch it. Go on, itch it, it will relieve something deep in your soul. We speak up and use our voice, not just for ourselves, but for those like us who still feel stuck and silenced.  Recognize that what you have to say matters. Realize that your voice can help others. Remember that words give life - and bringing yours to the surface births life.  Start practicing. Know it will be awkward. You will feel emotionally exposed and hungover.