S18 E22 - Friendship in the Lord: Intimacy in Friendship (Chapters 7 & 8)

In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and discuss how friendship with others leads us into deeper intimacy with God. We talk about our longing for both human and divine communion, how healthy friendships free us from self-preoccupation, and why learning to receive feedback is essential to our growth. We also reflect on how unmet desires in friendship are signs of our longing for the Trinity and the importance of releasing lesser goods so that we can be free to receive God's greater gifts. 

 

Announcement:

• You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord from Ave Maria Press (or Amazon).

 

Journal Questions:

• What makes me feel at home with the Trinity?
• How has God invited me to be a more faithful friend?
• Where do I need to grow in self-awareness and be freed from self-preoccupation?
• What is my disposition when someone lovingly reveals my own weaknesses and shortcomings to me?
• How have I refused to grow?

 

Discussion Questions:

• What makes you feel at home with other people?
• How is God inviting you into deeper communion with others?
• How has the Lord revealed to you your weaknesses and shortcomings? How did you receive that truth from Him?
• How have you given into sloth by seeking God's lesser gifts and ignoring His greater gifts?

 

Quote to Ponder:

"In a special way, Christian friendship is meant to help us grow in our relationship with the Lord, as one intimately loved by him. It is meant to give us some small experience of what it means to be at home in communion with the Holy Trinity. Only in intimacy with the Lord are we the deepest "who we are." Only in communion with him are we our truest selves." (Friendship in the Lord, Page 77)

 

Scripture for Lectio:

"I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master's business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you." (John 15:15)

 

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 Scripture Verse

02:37 Human Friendship Helps Us Grow In Relationship with God

05:06 Freedom from Self-Preoccupation

07:47 Cultivating Self Awareness

10:15 Giving and Receiving Honest Feedback

14:36 Pain in Friendship is a Symbol of Our Longing for God

19:12 What Should We Do with Our Ache?

22:48 Resting in the Enjoyment of Lesser Gifts

25:05 A Call to Make Room

27:22 Closing Prayer