Dr. Orna Gurlanik: Struggling to Communicate With Your Partner? THIS One Habit Could Slowly Be Destroying Your Relationship! (Here’s How to Catch It Before It’s Too Late!)

2025-07-07

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Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again? Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on the hit series Couples Therapy. Known for helping couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, conflict, and emotional patterns, Orna shares the real reason relationships break down — and what it actually takes to build something that las...

Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again?

Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you?

Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on the hit series Couples Therapy. Known for helping couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, conflict, and emotional patterns, Orna shares the real reason relationships break down — and what it actually takes to build something that lasts.

Jay and Orna explore why couples often blame communication as the root of all their problems, when what’s really breaking them down runs much deeper. They explore how differences in values, backgrounds, and even childhood wounds create invisible barriers in love—and how we often try to solve them by changing the other person instead of turning inward. Orna shares how blame, defensiveness, and scorekeeping keep us stuck in toxic patterns, and what it looks like to show up with more honesty, humility, and curiosity.

Together Jay and Orna unpack the rise of therapy language online—terms like “gaslighting” and “narcissist”—and how misusing them can shut down the kind of open dialogue relationships truly need. They also explore how issues around money, time, and intimacy often point to deeper struggles with power, identity, and emotional safety.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner

How to Recognize the Real Issue Beneath the Argument

How to Make Conflict a Source of Connection

How to Move from Blame to Responsibility

How to Stay Grounded When Your Values Clash

How to Build a Relationship That Grows with You

Real love doesn’t ask us to become someone else — it asks us to grow into our most honest, grounded self. This episode is a reminder that healthy relationships aren’t about avoiding differences, but about learning how to navigate them with compassion.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:06 Why Couples Really Fight: The Common Core Conflicts

04:02 Facing “Otherness”: What Happens When Your Partner Is Different

06:07 Embracing Differences Without Losing Yourself

10:21 Building a Partnership of Equals During Conflict

16:48 Holding On to Your Value in a Relationship

19:39 Conflicting Loyalties: When Family and Love Collide

25:18 The Art of Working Through Relationship Struggles

30:01 Digging Deeper: Finding the Root of Your Disagreements