Stop Trying to Fix It! Why Your Partner Just Wants You to Listen

2025-04-10

Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect. After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer.Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and...

Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect.

After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer.

Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and real-life relationship tools, they explore why fixing is often a way to manage our own discomfort—and what to do instead.

Click play to find out why fixing isn’t always helping—and what to do instead. And don’t forget to share this episode with the fixer in your life.

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