Dating with ADHD

Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run. 

Dating coach Amie Leadingham visits the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top. 

Related resources

• Is it love or is it dopamine?, from Tips from an ADHD Coach
• A dating coach talks ADHD and super-connecting, from How’d You Get THAT Job?!
• Amie’s website, amiethedatingcoach.com

Timestamps

(03:59) What does a dating coach do?

(08:07) How ADHD can affect dating

(09:29) ADHD and “love bombing”

(12:56) What is “screening”?

(14:04) Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”

(17:50) How to ask good questions

(19:45) What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want

(21:37) How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?

(23:42) When do we disclose that we have ADHD?

(25:21) Trouble with time perception and texting

(26:20) Trouble with impulse control and dating

(27:30) Amie’s question suggestions

(29:00) ADHD and oversharing

(30:54) Amie on a dating timeline

(33:10) ADHD and kink

(34:24) Where you can find Amie

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